MORE vs Less: Decluttering Doesn’t Have To Be Linear; You Can Zigzag

Day 23 – I am a zigzag declutterer. I am okay with that.

I am a decluttering rebel.

The decluttering books I’ve read say to do one room or area at a time. And once you are done, THEN move on to a different area. That doesn’t work for me. I lose all motivation if I stay in the same area too long.

So far in this 23 day journey, I have not worked more than 2 days in a row in the same area. And yet I am seeing places decluttered.

So I say, know what motivates you. Set YOUR rules up in advance.

My rules . . .

  • Set the timer for 31 minutes. When it goes off, I stop. Although a few times I have worked longer.
  • I don’t have a set plan for what gets decluttered when. Well, I did plan to declutter my porch last week because it was supposed to rain. It DID rain and I DID declutter in time.

I have been all over the place from bathroom to art supplies to porch to digital clutter and so on. I don’t see huge improvement – yet. And I probably would’ve seen more improvement if I stayed in one room and finished that one room.

  • But I am still motivated every day – yes every day.
  • I am getting stuff moved OUT of my house.
  • I own LESS that when I started on October 1st.
  • I am sensing a change in the relationship between me and my stuff. I am feeling less connection to things; the “my” in “my stuff” is weaker. Does that make sense?
  • My decluttering plan does not have to be linear, going from one completed area to another, in order for me to be successful.

Your Turn . . .  What are your rules? . . . Are you a linear or zigzag declutterer?

Day 23 –  31 Minutes of Decluttering = One container of miscellanies stuff – mainly paper memories from my 4th/5th grade. I don’t need to keep report cards and pictures/cards I made for my mom. It is sweet that she kept these items, but in the trash they went. I am feeling fatigued because of going through all these paper memories. Does that happen to you, too?

Go here for the landing page with all the posts for MORE vs less: 31 Days of Decluttering. #write31days  . . . I am joining 100’s of bloggers who are determined to write every day in October on one topic. To read more about #Write31Days, go here.

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Grateful 43 – Things about My Daughter-in-Law

Day 41 – Things about My Daughter-in-Law

Part of the wonderful thing about having grandchildren, is that they come with parents. My son and his wife (my daughter-in-law) are awesome parents. They are thoughtful, playful, consistent, and dedicated to each other and their girls. I am blessed to have Daniella as a daughter-in-law.

I am grateful for three things about my daughter-in-law.

ONE. Parenting style. Daniella is a wonderful mother to two (soon three) children.

  • She patiently and consistently guides them.
  • Daniella researches answers when unsure of what to do.
  • She genuinely enjoys spending time with her kiddos.
  • She ensures that I get time with them.

As a result, my granddaughters are a pleasure to be around. And we are getting to know each other.

TWO. Self-Care. Daniella is smart and capable. She does things that improve her life as a woman, mom, and wife. She is a great role-model for her daughters.

THREE. Hospitable. Daniella is open to having an open home to family and friends. We can come for the day or stay longer. She is kind and welcoming. It is a pleasure to be in her home.

Your Turn . . . Do you have a DIL? If yes, why are you grateful for her? … If you are a DIL, do you feel that your MIL appreciates you? Why do you believe this?

I am writing a gratitude series titled Grateful 43. I will do this for 43 days. And I will write three things for which I am grateful 4 each topic. Do you see the play on the words 43 and FOR THREE?  Go here for the 43 Days of Gratitude JOURNAL Prompts

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MORE vs less: Know Your Decluttering Purpose

Day 22 – Where are you going with your declutter mission? In other words, WHY are you doing this?

When you identify why you want to let go of your stuff, it’s more likely that you will protect your decluttered space. When you approach decluttering with the purpose of creating a calmer space, less stressful work-week, or a healthier, happier life, you won’t be easily derailed by the allure of more stuff. ~ By 

 

One of the things I love about my cell phone is that it has access to GPS. Since I am direction challenged, having this tool is a necessity. When you use GPS, Siri periodically gives course directions and reroutes. But in order to do this, she has to know where you are going.

This is true for us as well as we are on our decluttering journey. Where are you going?; or in other words, what is your why? What do you hope to gain by decluttering your space? Knowing this answer will help when the decluttering gets hard. And it will get hard.

Are you decluttering so that you can . . . 

  • Find your library books?
  • Have company over without advance notice?
  • Park your car in the garage?
  • Be worry free if someone opens the door to your closets?

Those are great side benefits of decluttering. But are they a strong enough motivator or purpose to decluter? I don’t think so.

When I started really getting serious about putting my house in order, it was because I was fed up with the disorder. But more than that, I was tired of the disorder standing in the way of everything I wanted for my life. I was determined to create the environment I wanted for my family and the ambiance I needed in order to focus my attention on what mattered to me.

I was tired of shuffling clutter from one room to the next. I was tired of organizing and reorganizing stuff. I was tired of wasting time on stuff. I had a bigger vision for my life. Honestly clutter felt like a ball-and-chain around my ankle. I wanted to make more room for worthwhile things that are intangible, not just more stuff I had to manage. ~ Melissa Michaels, Make Room For What You Love: Your Essential Guide to Organizing and Simplifying

To determine your purpose, answer the following questions . . .

  • What kind of environment do you want at home? What emotions do you want to experience at home?
  • What matters most to you for your home?
  • What is clutter preventing you from doing in your life? In your home?
  • What worthwhile, intangible things do you want to pursue in your life? In your home?

“The endgame is how this new way [of decluttered] living makes you feel, how it allows you to operate, and what it inspires you to do next.” ~ Fay Wolf, New Order: A Decluttering Handbook For Creative Folks (and everyone else)

Your Turn . . . What is your purpose for decluttering? As you answered the above questions, were any of your answers a surprise?

Day 16 –  31 Minutes of Decluttering = Back in my work office. Man, oh, man, do the papers ever PILE up.

Related Resources . . .

Go here for the landing page with all the posts for MORE vs less: 31 Days of Decluttering. #write31days  . . . I am joining 100’s of bloggers who are determined to write every day in October on one topic. To read more about #Write31Days, go here.

Join me in this experiment of MORE vs less. If you’d like, you can join our private Facebook group that is encouraging one another in this task.

 

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Grateful 43 – Musicals

Day 40 – Musicals

Have you seen very many musicals? Until this year I hadn’t and that is changing. You see this is the year that I am watching 59 musicals during my birthday year. Why 59? That is how old I turned this year. And lately, I’ve set myself to do a challenge according to how old I am.

So far I have watched 53 musicals and enjoyed most of them. And I could tell you why I was grateful for each one. It was hard to narrow down 3 for this post, but I did it. I am grateful 4 these 3 musicals.

ONE. 1776.  “1776, [is] a goofy/poignant/boring/riveting musical that frames the process of ratifying the Declaration as the original reality show (a bunch of dudes are trapped in a room together for weeks, with nothing to do but form alliances and bitch at each other).” ~ By HILLARY BUSIS.

Too often (in my experience) history has been presented as a group of facts – dull, dry facts. This musical presented the facts with emotion (and some inaccuracy). It showed me, a little, what it must have been like to be part of this historic event. There was passion … brilliance .. dedication to an ideal … bickering … stubbornness … persistence … and compromise. In the end dedication to an ideal won and America became one, new nation.

I am grateful for this musical, 1776, because it showed me that while America was and is messy, she is based on sound, inspirational ideals. Ideals I want to be part of and help live on.

TWO.  High School Musical (1, 2, 3). I saw the first one (and then other two) because my niece, Emily, recommended this musical movie.(so did her dad). It was a fave in their household.

It became a fave of mine, too. I like learning and I especially like learning when it isn’t painful to do so. The songs were peppy and singable. And the themes were meaningful.

I am most grateful for the advice, “Be true to  yourself. Don’t stick to the status quo..” It is hard to be your own person (even as an adult) and to follow your interests especially when important people in your life (family and friends) discourage that. It is a better world when we stop putting people into a box of our expectations and let them be who they are. It is a better world when we dare step out of that box and be who God has made us to be.

And I am grateful that teens saw and heard this message in a fun, lively medium.

THREE. Man of La Mancha. Peter O’Toole and Sophia Loren starred in this musical about Don Quixote’s desire to be a hero: to restore the age of chivalry, battle all evil, and right all wrongs.

Don Quixote  has “shown to what an important extent all men can, and must, create their own reality – and how inspiring and dangerous it can be.” ~ Life magazine’s critic Tom Prideaux

Don Quixote pursued his dream despite mocking, mean-spirited people. It seemed he wasn’t a hero after all. Until the end. In the end his pursuit made a difference; although he had to wait to find that out on his death-bed.

Jim Nabors sings The Impossible Dream, a fave song in the musical. Nabors is playing the part of Gomer Pyle, a frightened and unsure Marine who lost his voice (due to fear) at a company show. Pyle says he is not a great man and can’t be expected to overcome his fear. “A great man is the only one who can be a hero.”

A ranger responds to Pyle, “A hero is a man doing the  job he has to the best he knows how.”

I am grateful for this message, that we can all be heroes by doing the best we know how. That is what Don Quixote did. And that is what Pyle ended up doing. We may face our big moments and know right away that we touched people’s lives, like Pyle. Or we may have to wait until death, like the Don, before we know that we touched people’s lives. Either way, we can be a hero. So stay the course.

Your Turn . . . What is a favorite musical? Why do you appreciate it?

I am writing a gratitude series titled Grateful 43. I will do this for 43 days. And I will write three things for which I am grateful 4 each topic. Do you see the play on the words 43 and FOR THREE?  Go here for the 43 Days of Gratitude JOURNAL Prompts

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MORE vs less: Dealing With “I Might Need It Some Day”

Day 21 – It happened again this past week. I recently (like in this month) got rid of something, And I needed the exact thing this week. Luckily I found another item that was similar which was good enough.

How do you deal with the stronghold of “I might need it someday, so I can’t part with it today”?

This is a hard one for me. And many times, I’ve gotten rid of something to need it within the week.

Has that ever happened to you?

Hazel Thornton is a professional organizer and time management consultant. She also has a helpful blog. She helps her clients by having them answer 4 questions about their clutter.

  1. What are the realistic chances that I will need this someday?  (If you don’t know, just take a guess. 20% is a fairly low probability. 80% is getting closer to certainty.)
  2. What is the replacement cost of that item? (Consider the time involved, the financial cost, and the energy required. Do not use numbers, just use your gut.)
  3. How much space would be recovered if you were to let it go? (If the item is tiny, the incentive to let it go is reduced. We want the biggest bang for our decluttering buck!)
  4. What is the worst thing that might happen if I needed this someday and no longer had it?

I (usually) have a logical approach to life, but holding onto my stuff defies logic. Answering these questions help take the emotional attachment and illogical thinking out of the equation. These questions help me get back to logical thinking.

Your Turn . . . Do you hold onto clutter because you might need it someday? How do you get yourself to let it go?

Day 15 –  31 Minutes of Decluttering = Decluttered in the porch closet.

Related Resources . . . 

Go here for the landing page with all the posts for MORE vs less: 31 Days of Decluttering. #write31days  . . . I am joining 100’s of bloggers who are determined to write every day in October on one topic. To read more about #Write31Days, go here.

Join me in this experiment of MORE vs less. If you’d like, you can join our private Facebook group that is encouraging one another in this task.

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Grateful 43 – Things in My Car

Day 39 – Things in My Car

I appreciate my car. It is safe to drive, has handy features (back-up camera and working radio), gets decent gas mileage. But there are also things IN my car that I appreciate. Let me tell you why I am grateful for 3 things in my car. 

ONE. Scissors. Do you know how many times I have used these? Too many times to count.Here are some ways I’ve used them. … To cut gum out of hair. … To open a food package. … To open a DVD package. … And for cutting coupons out of an entertainment book, newspaper of magazine.

TWO. Audio books. This is especially important for when I drive for an extended period of time. And they are helpful for when there is a lot of traffic. The audio books (on my cell phone) help me feel more relaxed and I am able to just go with the flow of what’s happening around me. TIP: Don’t buy them. Check them out online from the library.

THREE. Cell phone charger. Now that my phone’s battery is getting older, it doesn’t hold the charge as long. Having this plug-in charger means I don’t have to worry about my phone dying. And when I am in the car, it is important that I have enough battery juice to use my GPS (as I am direction challenged). And it means I can call for help when my car breaks down. And it is important to have enough battery power to play the audio book I am listening to.

Your Turn . . . What is in your car that you are grateful 4?

I am writing a gratitude series titled Grateful 43. I will do this for 43 days. And I will write three things for which I am grateful 4 each topic. Do you see the play on the words 43 and FOR THREE?  Go here for the 43 Days of Gratitude JOURNAL Prompts

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Grateful 43 – Things in my Office

Day 38 – Things in my Office

I LOVE my work office. It is decorated with items from home. The walls are a sage green. It has 3 comfy chairs that belonged to other people in another life. And there is a lot of good lighting throughout the room. While I am grateful for everything that makes my office “homey,” I am especially grateful 4 3 things in my office.

ONE. High Top Table.  I am enamored with high top tables. I have always wanted one. So it is a treat to have one in my office, courtesy of my daughter. This cherry wood table is big enough to hold my projects when I need to spread out. And it is small enough to not over power the room.

TWO. High Bookcase. The bottom shelf has 3 cubbies with a basket in each one. Since I don’t have a closet or a desk with drawers, these hold all the odds & ends that I need but can be tucked out-of-sight. What makes this bookcase extra special is that it is high. It is high enough to use as a standing desk. A friend gave me a cushioned mat so that I can stand there, in comfort, all day if I want. I am grateful that I am able to do more standing while I work in my office.

THREE. Photos. I have 4 photo collages on my walls. They hold photos of special people and special trips I’ve taken. These photos remind me of my purpose in life, to work with integrity by being joyful in hope, patient in affliction, and faithful in prayer. These photos are excellent prayer reminders. As I do those things, I will be able to serve my loved ones (family and friends) well.

Your Turn . . . Talk about your office. What are things in it that you most appreciate?

I am writing a gratitude series titled Grateful 43. I will do this for 43 days. And I will write three things for which I am grateful 4 each topic. Do you see the play on the words 43 and FOR THREE?  Go here for the 43 Days of Gratitude JOURNAL Prompts

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