78 Must See Musicals According to My Facebook Friends

This year I plan on watching 59 musicals. I am doing this to celebrate my 59th year of life. Some Facebook friends helped me to compile a list of must-see musicals. Below is this list of 78 ideas.

__ 25th Annual Putnam County Spelling Bee

__ Aida.

__ Ain’t Misbehavin’

__ All That Jazz

__ An American in Paris

__ Anchors Aweigh

__ Annie

__ Barefoot in the Park
X  Beauty and the Beast

X  Brigadoon

__ Burlesque

X  Bye Bye Birdie

__ Carasoul
__ Cats
__ Chicago
__ Christmas Carol

__ Damn Yankees

__ Dreamgirls

X Fame

X Fiddler on the Roof

__ Flower Drum Song

X  Footloose

X Frozen

X Funny Girl
X Funny Lady

_  Gentlemen Prefer Blondes
__ Gigi

X Godspell 10

X Grease

__Guys and Dolls
__Hello Dolly

X Holiday Inn

__ How to Succeed in Business Without Really Trying

__ Into the Woods

__ Jersey Boys

__ Joseph and His Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat

X The Jungle Book

X The King and I
__ Kiss Me Kate
__ La La Land

__ Legally Blonde

X Les Miserables

X The Lion King

__ Little Shop of Horrors

X Mama Mia

__ Man of La Mancha

X Mary Poppins
__ Miss Saigon

__ Moulin Rouge
X My Fair Lady

__ Newsies

X   Oklahoma
__ Oliver!
__ On a Clear Day you Can See Forever

__ On the Town

__ Once on This Island 10

__ Otello

X  Paint Your Wagon
X  Phantom of the Opera
__ Pippin NAV

X  Pirates of Penzance

__  Ragtime NAV
__  Robin and the Seven Hoods

X   Seven Brides for Seven Brothers
X   Singing in the Rain

X   Sister Act

X   Sound of Music

X   South Pacific

__  Suesical

__  Sunday in the Park

__  Tosca

__  Umbrellas of Chernbourg

X   Victor Victoria
X   West Side Story
X   White Christmas
__  Wicked

__ The Wiz

X  Yentl
Your Turn . . .

  • How many have you seen?
  • Is there a musical that needs to be added to this list?

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Musicals Bucket List – My 59th Year Challenge

In these last few years, I’ve often done a yearlong challenge that commemorates how old I am. And there is the added bonus that the challenge helps me remember how old I am.

  • One year I collected that number of Operation Christmas Child boxes.
  • Twice I read that number of books.
  • And this year, my 59th year, I am going to watch musicals. Between March 2017-March 2018, I will watch 59 musicals.

Yes, believe it or not, there are THAT many musicals. In fact there are 100’s of them. TRULY.

So just between these two sources there are about 100 musicals.

And stars such as Elvis Presley, Bing Crosby, Doris Day, and Fred Astaire (to name a few) have starred in many musicals as well.

I found several links that pointed me in the right direction:

And I asked my friends on Facebook to recommend their favorite musicals. They gave me 78 ideas.

I picked this challenge because I thought I hadn’t seen very many musicals. Boy was I wrong. On most lists I’ve seen about 50% of the titles. Yet, there are huge gaps in my viewing history. And there are more than 59 musicals I could see.

I made up a list of potentials musical dates. I will see what I can see through Amazon streaming videos, Netflix, the library, thrift store, friends’ collections, and the stage. Since I might not be able to find each one, this list will most likely change.

Which ones on my to-watch list have you seen?

  1. 1776
  2. 42nd Stree
  3. Across the Universe
  4. An American in Paris
  5. Anchors Aweigh
  6. Babes in Arms
  7. Babes in Toyland
  8. Barefoot in the Park
  9. Burlesque
  10. Calamity Jane
  11. Camelot
  12. Carousel
  13. Chicago
  14.  Chorus Line
  15. Christmas Carol with Kelsey Grammer
  16. Dreamgirls
  17. Duck Soup
  18. Easter Parade
  19. Evita
  20. Finian’s Rainbow
  21. Gentlemen Prefer Blondes
  22. Gigi
  23. Guys and Dolls
  24. Gypsy
  25. Hair
  26. Hairspray
  27. Happy Go Lovely
  28. Hello Dolly
  29. High School Musical
  30. High Society
  31. How to Succeed in Business Without Really Trying
  32. Into the Woods
  33. Jersey Boys
  34. The Last Five Years
  35. The Lego Movie
  36. Little Shop of Horrors
  37. Lili
  38. Man of La Mancha
  39. Meet Me in St Louis
  40. The Mikado
  41. Moulin Rouge!
  42. Newsies
  43. Oliver!
  44. On a Clear Day You Can See Forever
  45. On The Town
  46. Otello
  47. The Pajama Game
  48. Princess and the Frog
  49. The Producers
  50. Rent!
  51. Robin and the 7 Hoods
  52. The Rocky Horror Picture Show
  53. Second Chorus
  54. Showboat
  55. A Star is Born
  56. State Fair 
  57. Sweeney Todd
  58. The Umbrellas of Cherbourg
  59. Viva Las Vegas

Your Turn . . . 

  • Do you do anything special to commemorate your own birthday? If yes, what?
  • Do you do yearlong challenges? If yes, how has that gone and what do you do?
  • Are there any musicals I should add to my list?

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Did I Read 58 Books Last Year? Summary of My 58th Year Challenge

I recently had a birthday, so it is time to evaluate how well I did on my birthday challenge.
I challenged myself to read 58 books because I was 58 years old last year. Did I meet that goal?

Turns out I was a reading fool! I read 111 books.

I’ve always loved books and last year I read differently.

  • I read series. In fact I read books from 8 series. The first series I’ve read to completion as an adult is The Mitford series by Jan Karon. Then I discovered Louise Penny, Shannon Stoker, Douglas Preston and James Patterson (to name a few). I don’t know why I went on a series binge, but it certainly was fun.
  • I finished some unfinished titles. I was able to read to completion four books that have been languishing in my to-finish pile. I am most proud of finishing Moby Dick. I really s-t-r-u-g-g-l-e-d with the first part of that book. Then when I picked it again last year, I LOVED reading it.  And I wondered why it took me so long to finish. The Imitation of Christ was such a deep read, I just couldn’t rush through it.
  • I discovered the Gilmore Girls reading list. I read 8 books from that diverse list last year. I plan on reading the 339 books that Rory read. So far I’ve read 82 books.
  • I am obsessed with yearlong quests. Several years ago I read Living Oprah: My One-Year Experiment to Live as TV’s Most Influential Guru Advises. And I was hooked on this genre. This year I read three such books. The Gratitude Diaries: How a Year Looking on the Bright Side Can Transform Your Life was my FAVE book in this category. And it is one I will reread so I can re-immerse myself in its helpful ideas.  This link has 12 ideas and I plan on reading from this list this 59th year.

Read the rest of the post to see the 111 titles and other categories.

Assorted Titles

  1. The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron – I read and did the assignments with my daughter.
  2. Chicken Soup for the Soul: The Power of Gratitude: 101 Stories about How Being Thankful Can Change Your Life by Amy Newmark and Deborah Norville
  3. Cutting for Stone by Abraham Verghese
  4. Daughters of the Dragon by William Andrews – I read this as an e-book while traveling in Taiwan.
  5. The Einstein Prophecy by Robert Masello – New author to me which I enjoyed a lot.
  6. The God of Small Things by Arundhati Roy
  7. The Good Life Lab: Radical experiments in Hands-On Living  by Wendy Tremayne
  8. Iscariot: A Novel of Judas by Tosca Lee – I want to read more books by this author.
  9. The Jesus Storybook Bible: Every Story Whispers His Name by Sally Lloyd-Jones – This book has beautiful pictures and words
  10. Long Way Gone by Charles Martin – This is a title for the reread list.
  11. Miss Julia Inherits a Mess by Ann B. Ross (published this year-2016)
  12. One Memory At A Time: Inspiration & Advice for Writing Your Famiy History by D.G. Fulford
  13. The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results by Gary Keller
  14. The Optimist’s Daughter by Eudora Welty
  15. A Paris Apartment: A Novel by Michelle Gable – While reading this book I kept Googling historical events and people.
  16. Pure Heart, Enlightened Mind: The Life and Letters of an Irish Zen Saint by Maura O’Halloran
  17. Rethinking Positive Thinking: Inside the New Science of Motivation by Gabriele Oettingen
  18. The Secrets of a Charmed Life by Susan Meissner
  19. The Shell Seekers by Rosamunde Pilcher – This is also a must reread. 
  20. A Shepherd Looks at Psalm 23 by Phillip Keller – I confess, this is not the fist time I’ve read this book.
  21. A Spy’s Guide to Thinking by John Braddock
  22. Steal Like an Artist: 10 Things Nobody Told You About Being Creative by Austin Kleon
  23. Still Alice by Lisa Genova – Tears, and more tears as I read this book about Alice, a 50-year-old Harvard professor diagnosed with early-onset Alzheimer’s.
  24. Suzanne’s Diary for Nicholas by James Patterson
  25. Thinner in 30: small changes that add up to big weight loss in just 30 days by Jenna Wolfe
  26. The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battle by Steven Pressfield

Audio – I am not usually one who listens to books on tape. And I enjoyed doing this while walking or driving.

  1. The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan
  2. The Kite Runner by Khaled Hosseini
  3. Memoirs of a Geisha: A Novel by Arthur Golden
  4. Middlesex by Jeffrey Eugenides
  5. The Witch of Blackbird Pond by Elizabeth George Spears

Austen in August – This is the second time I participated in this yearly internet challenge.

  1. Emma: a Modern Retelling by Alexander McCall Smith
  2. Pride and Prejudice and Zombies by Seth Grahame-Smith and Jane Austen

Book to Movie – So far, I’ve only seen one of these books as a movie. If you’ve seen these movies, which one(s) do you recommend?

  1. The BFG by Roald Dahl
  2. The Circle by Dave Eggers
  3. The Girl On The Train by Paula Hawkins
  4. A Hologram for the King by Dave Eggers
  5. Miss Peregrine’s Home for Peculiar Children by Ramsom Riggs
  6. Silence by Shusaku Endo

Gilmore Girls Book List – There are 339 books on this list. I read 8 of them this past year. Now the total # I’ve read is 82.

  1. Angela’s Ashes by Frank McCourt
  2. Atonement by Ian McEwan
  3. Autobiography of a Face by Lucy Grealy
  4. David Copperfield by Charles Dickens
  5. Deenie by Judy Blume
  6. Ella Minnow Pea: A Novel in Letters by Mark Dunn
  7. S is for Silence by Sue Grafton
  8. Swimming with Giants: My Encounters with Whales, Dolphins and Seals by Anne Collett

Recommended – I got these ideas from friends, blogs, and Facebook.

  1. Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilber
  2. Four Seasons in Rome: On Twins, Insomnia, and the Biggest Funeral in the History of the World by Anthony Doerr
  3. The Chocolate Snowman Murders: A Chocoholic Mystery by JoAnna Carl
  4. The Curious Charms of Arthur Pepper by Phaedra Patrick
  5. Lying Awake by Mark Salzman ]
  6. Moloka’i by Alan Brennert
  7. The Nazi Officer’s Wife: How One Jewish Woman Survived the Holocaust by Edith H. Beer and Susan Dworkin
  8. The Neverending Story by Michael Ende
  9. We Have Always Lived In The Castle by Shirley Jackson

SERIES – I read books in EIGHT series this year 

One. Alexander McCall Smith: Isabel Dalhousie Series – I plan on reading all the books in this series. I started reading this because I found books #57 & 58 at the dollar store and loved them.

  1. The Careful Use of Compliments (book 4/11)
  2. The Uncommon Appeal of Clouds (book 9/11)

Two. Douglas Preston and Lincoln Child: Gideon Crew Series – Completed the series.

  1. The Ice Limit
  2. Gideon’s Sword
  3. Gideon’s  Corpse
  4. The Lost Island
  5. Beyond the Ice Limit

Three. James Patterson: Women’s Murder Club (books 1-9) – I plan on reading all the books in this series.

  1. 1st to Die
  2. 2nd Chance
  3. 3rd Degree
  4. 4th of July
  5. The 5th Horseman
  6. 6th Target
  7. 7th Heaven
  8. 8th Confession
  9. 9th Judgement

Four. Jan Karon: The Mitford Series (books 3-10) – This is the first series I read to completion as an adult. There are only two book series I read when younger (and again as an adult): Chronicles of Narnia and Anne of Green Gables.

  1. These High, Green Hills
  2. Out to Canaan
  3. A New Song
  4. A Common Life: the Wedding Story
  5. In This Mountain
  6. Fluke Light from Heaven
  7. Somewhere Safe With Somebody Good
  8. Come Rain or Come Shine

Five. Joanne Fluke: Hannah Swenson Mysteries with Recipes

  1. Chocolate Chip Cookie Murder (book 1/21)
  2. Strawberry Shortcake Murder (book 2/21)
  3. Blueberry Muffin Murder (book 3/21_
  4. Lemon Meringue Pie Murder (book 4/21)
  5. Blackberry Pie Murder (book 17/21)
  6. Double Fudge Brownie Murder (book 18/21)
  7. Wedding Cake Murder (book 19/21)
  8. Christmas Caramel Murder (book 20/21)

Six. Justin Cronin: The Passage Trilogy

  1. The Passage (1/3)

Seven. Louise Penny: Chief Inspector Gamache Novels (books 1-11) – Completed the series and I wish there were more!

  1. Still Life
  2. A Fatal Grace
  3. The Cruelest Month
  4. A Rule Against Murder
  5. The Brutal Telling
  6. Bury Your Dead
  7. The Hangman
  8. A Trick of the Light
  9. The Beautiful Mystery
  10. How the Light Gets In
  11. The Long Way Home
  12. The Nature of the Beast
  13. A Great Reckoning

Eight. Shannon Stoker: The Registry (books 2-3) – Completed the series.

  1. The Collection
  2. The Alliance

Unfinished: Books that took me several years to finish reading

  1. The Imitation of Christ by Thomas à Kempis
  2. Moby Dick by Herman Melville
  3. The Practice of the Presence of God by Brother Lawrence
  4. Umapped Darkness: Finding God’s Path Through Suffering by Thomas Finch

Yearlong Theme – I am captivated by books in this genre

  1. The Gratitude Diaries: How a Year Looking on the Bright Side Can Transform Your Life by Janice Kaplan
  2. My So-Called Life as a Proverbs 31 Wife: a One-Year Experiment and Its Surprising Results by Sara Horn
  3. Learning to Breathe: My Yearlong quest to Bring Calm to My Life by Priscilla Warner

Your Turn . . . 

  • Did you make any reading goals last year? Did you meet them?
  • Did you read “differently” this year? If yes, how so?
  • Were any books a surprise?
  • Which one(s) would you recommend that I read?

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Friday’s Fave Five – November 3, 2016

fff-delicate-leavesIt’s the beginning of November and gratitude is in the air and in my heart. I am joining in with this meme (Friday’s Fave Five) to make sure that the gratitude stays in my heart. Feel free to join in the meme or in the comments with your gratitude list.

Blessing One – Shoe and Sock Drive and Food for Neighborhood Meals. Once a month our church provides a yummy dinner for people (homeless, lonely, low-income). This month the Women’s Ministry from my church recruited folks to make meatloaf and brownies. And we had a successful sock and shoe drive. I am grateful that Cheryl took oversight of this project.

I had dinner and a chat with one of our guests. He told me,  “I can’t believe that I got new socks and a pair of shoes that fit! [He is a TALL gentleman.] AND I got this hooded sweatshirt that FITS as well. I am so grateful.”

I am grateful that someone came to the church while we were setting up and donated a BIG plastic tub FULL of things like that hooded sweatshirt. And I am grateful that despite a rainy afternoon (but dry evening), 90 folks received the blessings of a home-cooked meal and footwear.

Jeremy, Bip and Susan (me) showing off our carved creations.

Jeremy, Bip and Susan (me) showing off our carved creations. It was easier using tools from a carving kit

Blessing Two – Carved real pumpkins. Last week I decorated faux pumpkins with my grand daughter and her great aunt. This past week I carved a real pumpkin with Bip. She told me she’d never carved a pumpkin before and I thought we needed to rectify that.

I finally learned how to take a photo at night. I don't know why it took me so long to learn.

I finally learned how to take a photo at night. I don’t know why it took me so long to learn.

I provided the pumpkins and her husband, Jeremy, provided the toolkit. I don’t have a lot of patience for carving so mine is always basic. But this year I did the eyes a little differently. And I think it is just right for being in the middle of this set of 3.

I am grateful for the friendship and company of these two folks who are also ministry partners. And I am grateful that we got to make some fun memories together.

Blessing Three – Watched a movie after I read the book. This year one of my book reading goals is to read books that were made into movies this year. So far I’ve read the following:

  • The BFG by Roald Dahl
  • The Circle by Dave Eggers
  • The Girl On The Train by Paula Hawkins
  • A Hologram for the King by Dave Eggers
  • Miss Peregrine’s Home for Peculiar Children: The First (of Three) Novel of Miss Peregrine’s Children by Ramsom Riggs
  • Silence by Shusaku Endo

And on Tuesday (movies are $5), Bip and I watched Miss Peregrine’s Home for Peculiar Children. It was a good portrayal of the book.

Going to the movies was our reward for doing some things for our Saturday morning Sisters in Prayer Reveal.

3-pumpkin-centerpieceBlessing Four –  Fall Crafting. Seems like this time of the year, I HAVE to take time to do some crafting. This past week I made two fall centerpieces. I craft not only for the finished product, but also because it is so relaxing.

Ths is one of the projects. The “pumpkin” on the bottom is really a yellow and green squash. I sponged orange paint on all three vegetables before inserting toothpicks and hot glueing them together.

I will make another centerpiece. I will use a bigger pot next time as I think this one is a little on the small side.

Big sister dressed up as a butterfly for Halloween. In this photo it looks like Sissy is surprised at her older sister's costume.

Big sister dressed up as a butterfly for Halloween. In this photo it looks like Sissy is surprised at her older sister’s costume. When you take LOTS of photos, you can often luck out on a great one.

Blessing Five –  Halloween. I worked in the morning. And while there, we had 20 Trick-or-Treaters. 3 days a week there is a memory care day group at our church. Every year they come to the office to get sweets and they always give us a decorated bag of sweets. too.

Then I drove to my son’s home. I got to  Trick-or-Treat with my grand daughters. I spent the night so I had extra time to apply faux tattoos, bake pumpkin chocolate chip cookies, read, and  do some crafting.

I had a blessed week. I hope you did ,too.

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Five Blessings

fff-delicate-leavesThis  month I have been paying closer attention to my thoughts and words. It has been a no complaining month.

Being part of Friday’s Fave Five assists me in both goals. Below are only five blessings from this past week.

BLESSING ONE: One click – The peace that Unfollow on Facebook brings. My main reason to be on Facebook is to share my photos and life events with others and to read the same in return. I have no wish to read rancorous posts and comments that divide. I don’t mind education posts; I even post those kind, too. But when there is disagreement, I want it to be a respectful disagreement.

Lat week one friend told me about Unfollow in Facebook. I researched and now my page is drama free.

BLESSING TWO: Connection. Lunch at Tower restaurant and a movie at an old-fashioned theatre with one of my besties. We saw Queen of Katwe.

Here are some of my fave quotes . . .

  • “Sometimes the place you are used to, is not the place where you belong,” (Coach Katende).
  • What matters is that you reset the pieces [on the chess board]  and you play again,” (Coach Katende)
  • “Do not be quick to tip your queen, Fiona,” (Coach Katende). In other words, don’t be quick to give up.
  • “Losing doesn’t make you a failure,” (Coach Katende).

As you can see, I sure like a LOT of what Coach taught the kiddos in his chess club. This inspiring, true-life story is worth seeing.

BLESSING THREE: Coveted book – Reading Louise Penny’s latest novel. I was on a L.O.N.G. wait list and I do mean LONG (from the library) for this book. I saw the book at Marsha’s house before we went to the movies. (See Blessing Two). On her table was A Great Reckoning.

Marsha belongs to our library’s book club and the facilitator/librarian had bought and saved all the members a copy of this 2016 release. Marsha lent me her copy which I read over the weekend. I am grateful that I didn’t have to wait several more months (at least) before getting to read this latest installment of Inspector Gamache. And it was worth giving up my weekend to read it.

me-with-pepperschoc-applesBLESSING FOUR: Creative cooking. Marsha made this Chunky Mango Guacamole Recipe. It was similar to the salsa we had at the Tower restaurant this week.

Marsha made a delicious rice and chicken dish that we baked in pumpkin-looking orange bell peppers. These orange peppers were so sweet and a great taste compliment to the filling. I did the “carving.”

For dessert we made chocolate caramel apples with fixings. Both were tasty and fun to make. We used this recipe. 

It was fun experimenting with both these recipes. I would do either of them again.

BLESSING FIVE: Lost and then FOUND. For a couple of months I didn’t remember where I put my tablet. One day this week it showed up. When the tablet was gifted to me, I didn’t think I’d needed one. I was wrong. I have come to LOVE this gadget and it is in the top three of my fave tech possessions.

I hope your week has at least five faves. Share then in the comments or write a post and link up with Susanne’s here.

Your Turn . . . 

  • What great book did you just finish?
  • What was the last great movie you s

Related Posts . . . 5 Conversations to Have with Your Kids After “Queen of Katwe”

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Five Blessings and No Complaints


Time to remember and share another five blessings from this past week. Doing this helps me stay on target with no complaining. I am doing this gratitude exercise and linking up at Susanne’s blog, Living to Tell the Story. Join us in this weekly meme. There is plenty of room.

I am on Day 19. My goal is 21 days in a row of not complaining.

Blessing #1I made it through another week of not complaining. I almost lost it on Day 17 but I remembered in the knick of time to ask for what I wanted. Asking for What You Want Is Scary But It Stops Complaining. On Day 18 I was able to stop my complaining mid-sentence. Adding a “BUT” Turned Situation from Complaining to Resolved.


Blessing #2 – I spent the day with my grand children on Saturday. We hugged and talked. We walked to a harvest festival where we ate pizza with cheese and basil, walked through a HUGE bubble and petted a goat and bunnies.


Blessing #3 – I had creative time. I was at a team meeting tonight and one of the ladies said, “If Susan is involved in something there will be a craft.” Yep, and even when I visit my grand kiddos there will be a craft. Saturday night we decorated faux pumpkins from the Dollar Store. The medium choices were paint and/or gluing on torn bits of construction paper. I did only gluing. Sofia chose to glue on paper and paint. Tia chose the only painting option. That one was given away to a friend.  . . . The pumpkin on the far right is melted crayons. I made it two weeks ago and when I showed Sofia (via FaveTime) she asked  if she could have it. Of course, sweat pea. Of course.

Blessing #4 – I had a healthy and tasty snack 3 days last week. It was an easy to prepare, old-fashioned snack of cold, fresh celery logs topped with almond butter. Yummm. I cannot remember the last time I ate that. I need to buy more celery and almond butter.

bannerBlessing #5 –
I have a photography app on my iPhone that I’ve had forever and I just started using it this week: PicsArt. It is so fun. It turns photos into watercolour, deco art and so on. This is the photo that I doctored.

I love the quote, too: “Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings.” I want to live my life this way.

Your Turn . . . 

  1. What is your easiest, favourite, healthy snack? Do share.
  2. How do you release your creative juices?

fruitfulwords125Related Resources . . . 

Read about two folks who took this challenge and the impact it had on them.

I am joining 100’s of others at #write31days to write every day in October on a single topic. My topic is 31 Days of Fruitful Words. The category is Personal Endeavors. I will spend time each day on this topic to improve the quality of my thinking and the words coming out of my mouth

I am committing to this online writing challenge. My topic is 31 Days of Fruitful Words INSTEAD OF COMPLAINING. I know I will be challenged in more ways than writing every day. If you’d like to have more fruitful words coming from your mouth, please join me from October 1-31, 2016

Today is Day 21 of the #Write31Days online October writing challenge. My topic is 31 Days of Fruitful Words INSTEAD OF COMPLAINING. I know I will be challenged in more ways than writing every day. If you’d like to have more fruitful words coming from your mouth, please join me from October 1-31, 2016.

Go here to see what #Write31Days is all about, the categories and the bloggers who are participating.

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Asking for What You Want Is Scary But It Stops Complaining

fruitfulwords1Yesterday I was told to hush and stop sharing my opinions on my Facebook page. This is what I naively shared . . .

“A measure of any society is how it treats its’ women and its’ girls,” Michelle Obama. . . . Women/girls being treated poorly, bothers me. . . . . “This is disgraceful and intolerable. It doesn’t matter what party we belong to. This isn’t about politics. It is about right and wrong.”

The conversation took on a life of its own. So I took the conversation to the private arena of Facebook Messenger with one person. That person told me (among other things) that I should hush as my views were contentious, disingenuous, a disappointment and flat-out wrong.

I felt dismissed and bullied and let my feelings get hurt. Because of past situations I let my reaction be bigger than was called for. Instead of talking to the person, I complained to my sister.

I had good reasons (I thought) to not talk to the responsible party.

  • I was afraid of her response back to me.
  • I don’t like confrontation.
  • I am not good with words.

But this morning I did. I thought and thought and then wrote how I felt and why. I wrote to her because we have good history (I thought) and because I would no longer be dismissed and silenced by others.

I asked for what I wanted.

I’d like to think we could agree to disagree concerning how we express our views. I respectfully give you space to do as you feel led and I’d like the same respect back.

And if we can’t, then we part ways.

Complaining made me feel … yucky … a victim … hopeless.  . . .  And there was no resolution.

Because I choose to take positive action, I feel  . . .

  • Yucky. I still feel this way because I have high regard for this person and this may truly be the end of the relationship. And I am still wounded by her words.
  • Empowered. It felt good and strong to express how I felt as a result of her words and attitude.
  • Proud. Like I said, I don’t like confrontation. But saying something is the only way through to us having an equal, respectful and honest relationship. And I am proud I showed enough respect for myself to say anything.

And while the situation is not resolved regarding our relationship, it is resolved in that I took the steps I needed to take.

F.Y.I – My sister is good about listening and then pointing me to taking a positive step to rectify the situation.

Today is Day 17 of my No Complaining Challenge. . . . I’ve discovered that a reason I complain is because I am too fearful to politely speak up and ask for a positive resolution. Today I took action and asked.

Your Turn . . . Does fear of confrontation lead you to complain instead of positively addressing the situation?

Related Resources . . .

  1. Goal: Complaint Free for a Whole Month
  2. You Just Might be a Potty Mouth
  3. 31 Days of Finishing (2014 #Write31Days series)
  4. Finding Laughter (2015 #Write31Days series)

Today is Day 19 of the #Write31Days online October writing challenge. My topic is 31 Days of Fruitful Words INSTEAD OF COMPLAINING. I know I will be challenged in more ways than writing every day. If you’d like to have more fruitful words coming from your mouth, please join me from October 1-31, 2016.

Go here for the landing page which has all the posts from this series.

Go here to see what #Write31Days is all about, the categories and the bloggers who are participating.

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