Why Do We Complain?
We complain because we . . .
- Are Fearful. We feel overwhelmed by the scary situation.
- Are acting Helpless. We avoid taking responsibility for the situation.
- Have let complaining become a habitual way to deal with our negative feelings.
- Are Prideful. Our ideas are the only ones worth considering.
- Are compassionless. We lack empathy for how people are acting. We don’t give them the benefit of the doubt or appreciate their point-of-view.
- Want validation for how we reacted to a situation.
- Are jealous. Complaining about someone knocks them down so we can feel better about ourselves.
- Think God doesn’t have our best in mind. All complaints boil down to complaints against God (in my worldview).
So How Can We STOP Complaining?
- The first step is to acknowledge that we complain.
- The next step is to figure out what is causing the complaining. Look at your past week and when you complained. What categories do your complaints fall into? Which one is most common?
Now go to the post Choose the Complaint That Will Bring Peace.
No Complaining Update: I am now on Day 6/21 of no complaining.
Your Turn . . .
- What would you add to the list?
- Did you identify with any of the reasons to complain? If yes, which one(s)?
- If you picked one of the above, or added to the list, what action would you like to take to overcome complaining.
Related Resources . . .
- Read The No Complaining Rule by Jon Gordon. This quick to read and easily understood book will give you more ideas on how to adopt a No Complaint lifestyle. I used ideas from this book in this post.
- 31 Days of Finishing (2014 #Write31Days series)
- Finding Laughter (2015 #Write31Days series)
- What If The Wholesome Words Were Bleeped?
Today is Day 8 of the #Write31Days online October writing challenge. My topic is 31 Days of Fruitful Words INSTEAD OF COMPLAINING. I know I will be challenged in more ways than writing every day. If you’d like to have more fruitful words coming from your mouth, please join me from October 1-31, 2016.
Go here for the landing page which has all the posts from this series.
Go here to see what #Write31Days is all about, the categories and the bloggers who are participating.