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Friday’s Fave Five – October 27, 2018

“In our world of greed, people measure success by accumulation. Christians [should] measure it by appreciations. We’re thankful for what we have, understanding that ‘a merry heart has a continual feast,’ Proverbs 15:15.”

Having a conditional feast sounds like a great way to live; so here are five appreciations from my last week. If you want to join this Friday meme. go to Susanne’s place. There is plenty of room.

ONE. Pizza and Pictionary. Once a year or so, the women at my church gather for a game night. This time we added pizza. YUMMY! I am a terrible drawer, and I do mean terrible. And I am not so hot at guessing, either. So I wasn’t expecting to really enjoy myself that much. BOY, was I WRONG! There were many times of laughter, deep belly laughter. Endorphins flowed all night long.

TWO. Pumpkin Patch. My daughter and I joined my daughter-in-law and her three kiddos at a pumpkin patch in Petaluma (1hr, 45mins away). On the way up I listened to my audio book. My son joined us later in the afternoon. We stayed there 4 hours, playing in a corn kernel pit, running through the hay maze, taking a tractor ride, eating lunch, milking cows and climbing tall stacks of hay bales. Then we went to a local brewery for dinner. Their nachos were so TASTY! There were many photo ops, lots of hugs, and many smiles.

THREE. Reverse Trick-or-Treating. I want to get to know my neighbors, so I spent two evenings going to their doors giving THEM treats. Although I was extremely nervous and my first night didn’t work out so well, I did persevere. Read this post to see what happened.

This is a sample of what I left by the door, when no-one answered.

FOUR. Audio Books. I listen to audio books when I drive a lot or when I get fed up with getting in my daily steps. Last week I was in the “fed up” stage and so listened to Where the Crawdads Sing by Delia Owens. Talk about plot twists! This is not the normal kind of book I read. It was on Reese Witherspoon’s book club choice for September.

FIVE. #Write31Days. I wrote 6/7 posts for my series on Acts of Kindness. I hope to get caught up this weekend. What I wrote last week . . .

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Kindness is Feeding People

Food is at the center of American activities. Food is a necessity and a luxury. It is a joy and it bonds people. Denise, a woman who oversaw the kitchen at our church felt that when food was served at an event, people felt welcomed and at ease.

There are many ways we can share food as an act of kindness. Be sure to add your ideas to this list.

  • Invite someone over for dinner.
  • Take an extra portion of your sack lunch contents to give to a co-worker.
  • Make cookies for a neighbor or the school crossing guard.
  • Make an acceptable goodie for someone who has food allergies. Getting a treat like this is rare and makes the recipient feel noticed.
  • Take a meal to someone who needs help (a new mom, someone just home from the hospital, someone who is grieving). I think a just-because meal would be gratefully accepted, too.
  • Buy gift cards to fast food restaurants to give to a teenager or homeless person.
  • Donate food to the food pantry or to a program like Neighborhood Meals (NM).

NM is a free community meal served at my church (near Sacramento, CA) the last Friday of every month. If you are hungry, come and eat; if you’re not, come and serve. We have room for people to help in the following positions: set-up, clean-up, serve food, help our guests take food to the table, and visit with the guests while you both eat. We also take food and clothing.

“There are people in the world so hungry, that God cannot appear to them except in the form of bread.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi

When someone is hungry and doesn’t have easy access to food because of homelessness, pain, depression, or recuperation, that is a vulnerable state to be in.

Kindness is noticing that food is a necessity and brings comfort and acceptance. Kindness is feeding people.

Your Turn . . . When was the last time you performed this act of kindness? . . .  When was the last time someone gave you food? . . . How did either/both situations make you feel.? . . . Who can you gift food to this week? 

Related Posts . . . 

Go here for yesterday’s post . . . Kindness is Trick-or-Treating

You can practice being kind by leaving me a comment. 

Please leave me an idea or two that I can add to my acts of kindness list. The idea can be intentional or random.

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Want to know what other acts of Kindness are on the list? Go to my Landing Page . . Scattering Kindness: A 31 Day Adventure of Intentional & Random Acts of Service.  

This post is part of #Write31Days where bloggers write every day in October on one topic. I am writing about Acts of Kindness, random and otherwise. It will be interesting to note how I am different and/or how my community is different.

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Kindness is Being a Friendly Driver

Road rage is on the rise. People are stressed, tired, and have too much to do to arrive places on time.  Or at least that’s what we tell ourselves. As a result we have driving expectations that are often not met.

We want  . . .  the traffic to be lighter … all the lights to be green . . .  and for people to get OUT of our way right NOW.

I want my own personal lane. Or at least for native CA drivers to have a dedicated lane for us. Shouldn’t there be some perk for living in California?

This is selfish thinking. This is entitled thinking. This is dangerous thinking which can lead to us arriving at our destination frustrated at the last and full of road rage at the most.

Calm down. Notice the needs of others. We all have some place to go. Share nicely. These words need to replace our rage-enduing ones.

Let’s change our mindset that WE are the most important drivers on the road. Kindness is being a friendly driver.

  • Let people merge even when they do so incorrectly.
  • Leave an appropriate space between you and the car in front.
  • Don’t speed trying to push the car in front to go faster.
  • Use your blinkers.
  • Allow more time to get to your destinations.
  • Give grace when people drive like an idiot.

Remember that sometimes we are the idiot and want their grace. So be a kind driver.

Your Turn . .  .  What is one way you can be a kind driver? . . . What do you most appreciate from others when you drive like an (accidental) idiot?

You can practice being kind by leaving me a comment. 

Want to know what other acts of Kindness are on the list? Go to my Landing Page . . Scattering Kindness: A 31 Day Adventure of Intentional & Random Acts of Service.  

Please leave me an idea or two that I can add to my acts of kindness list. The idea can be intentional or random.

This post is part of #Write31Days where bloggers write every day in October on one topic. I am writing about Acts of Kindness, random and otherwise. It will be interesting to note how I am different and/or how my community is different.

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Go here for yesterday’s post: Kindness is Going to the Funeral

Previous #Write31Days Topics

Thanks go to Elizabeth Symington for making my #Write31Days button and basic graphic for the kindness quotes. Elizabeth is writing a 31 days series on Summer of Service in Yosemite.

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Kindness is Going to the Funeral

But I don’t like going to funerals. I feel awkward, don’t know what to say, and I didn’t even know Julie’s dad,” I said to an elderly mentor.

“Is Julie your friend? Is she hurting?”

I answered both questions with a “Yes.”

“Often times,” my mentor said, “we go to a funeral to support our grieving friend. It has nothing to do with us. It makes a difference that we attend.”

I found out at the funerals of my parents, that it did make a difference. Some people who attended didn’t even know my parents. I felt supported, loved, and understood because these friends were with me during a HARD time.

Besides going to the funeral, send a card. And find the most meaningful card you can. My grandpa Carol, a very unsentimental dude, told me about a card he received after his wife, Ruby, died. “It was the prettiest card and the words were so comforting. I put it on the TV for months.” This card was a little gesture, a kind gesture, that meant so much.

Kindness notices the needs of others. It meets those needs. Kindness is going to the funeral. It is sending a card.

Your Turn . . . Do you attend funerals or do you skip them whenever you can? . . . Have you ever thought about how significant a card can be? . . . What is something else we can do to support a grieving friend?

You can practice being kind by leaving me a comment. 

Want to know what other acts of Kindness are on the list? Go to my Landing Page . . Scattering Kindness: A 31 Day Adventure of Intentional & Random Acts of Service.  

Please leave me an idea or two that I can add to my acts of kindness list. The idea can be intentional or random.

This post is part of #Write31Days where bloggers write every day in October on one topic. I am writing about Acts of Kindness, random and otherwise. It will be interesting to note how I am different and/or how my community is different

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Go here for yesterday’s post: Kindness is Putting Away Shopping Carts

Related Posts . . . 

Previous #Write31Days Topics

Thanks go to Elizabeth Symington for making my #Write31Days button and basic graphic for the kindness quotes. Elizabeth is writing a 31 days series on Summer of Service in Yosemite.

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Kindness is Praying

This post is part of #Write31Days where bloggers write every day in October on one topic. I am writing about Acts of Kindness, random and otherwise. It will be interesting to note how I am different and/or how my community is different

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Prayer impacts people and situations.

  • We can lift them up when they doubt God’s involvement and power.
  • We can pray that peace will replace worry.
  • We can ask God to heal physical, emotional and spiritual wounds.
  • We can ask God to give guidance for a situation. And then to give them the power and tenacity to follow through.
  • We can pray that people will come to know and accept God’s love (as shown through salvation).

Because our God is unlimited, we can pray for any and every need. Prayer doesn’t work because of what we pray, but because of WHO we pray to: the Creator of heaven and earth, including each person.

Max Lucado says it this way, “Our prayers may be awkward. Our attempts may be feeble. But since the power of prayer is in the One who hears it and not in the one who says it, our prayers do make a difference.”

Prayer is the best gift we can offer our family, friends, and even the world. Prayer is the best thing we can offer our enemies. Pray first, act second. Corrie ten Boom asks, “Is prayer your steering wheel or your spare tire?”

Spend some time today in this free and POWERFUL act of kindness.

Your Turn . . . Who will you pray for today?  . . . How do you answer Corrie ten Boom’s question, “Is prayer your steering wheel or your spare tire?”

You can practice being kind by leaving me a comment. 

Want to know what other acts of Kindness are on the list? Go to my Landing Page . . Scattering Kindness: A 31 Day Adventure of Intentional & Random Acts of Service.  

Please leave me an idea or two that I can add to my acts of kindness list. The idea can be intentional or random.

Related Posts . . . 

Previous #Write31Days Topics

Thanks go to Elizabeth Symington for making my #Write31Days button and basic graphic for the kindness quotes. Elizabeth is writing a 31 days series on Summer of Service in Yosemite.

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Kindness is Paying Someone’s Way Who Can’t Pay You Back or Pay it Forward

This post is part of #Write31Days where bloggers write every day in October on one topic. I am writing about Acts of Kindness, random and otherwise. It will be interesting to note how I am different and/or how my community is different

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Have you ever paid for the person behind you to receive a free coffee, toll crossing, or donut? This idea is on most random act of kindness lists, I don’t prefer that idea. When I spend my money, I want to make a difference in someone’s life. People who are in such lines, have the money for the coffee, toll, or donut.

Instead, how about paying for someone who can’t pay it back or forward (at least right now)? Below are some ideas.

  •  Pay for a homeless person’s lunch.
  • Take a senior on a fixed income to the movies.
  • Put a gas card on the windshield of a single mom’s car.
  • Treat a low-income friend to an event at church.

Kindness notices the needs of others. And then acts. 

 

Your Turn . . . Keep a look out for who you could bless with an experience or food. 

You can practice being kind by leaving me a comment. 

Want to know what other acts of Kindness are on the list? Go to my Landing Page . . Scattering Kindness: A 31 Day Adventure of Intentional & Random Acts of Service.  

Please leave me an idea or two that I can add to my acts of kindness list. The idea can be intentional or random.

Go here for yesterday’s post: Kindness is Looking Someone in the Eyes

Related Posts . . . Hospitality Field Trip Refreshes and Teaches

Previous #Write31Days Topics

Thanks go to Elizabeth Symington for making my #Write31Days button and basic graphic for the kindness quotes.

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Kindness is Looking Someone in the Eyes

This post is part of #Write31Days where bloggers write every day in October on one topic. I am writing about Acts of Kindness, random and otherwise. It will be interesting to note how I am different and/or how my community is different.

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One of the best joys of being the parent of an adult child is when they have children. Being a grandmother is an unexpected pleasure.  My two oldest grand children (5 and 2) keep me up to date on their lives by face timing me several times a week. And I am always surprised when I learn from them, even from one as young as five.

Recently, I spent several nights with my grand children. It was a full weekend of playing talking, walking, cuddling, photographing each other, and crafting. As I left to leave, Sofia said, “Grandma, let’s talk to each other tomorrow.”

“OK,” I replied. “I want to make that happen.”

And Grandma, don’t do anything else,” She added.

“What do you mean, Sofia?”

“Don’t do your dishes or anything during the time we are talking,” Sofia clarified.

 I thought it was okay to do my dishes or ironing when we were talking. But I understood then, that Sofia wanted me to look at her. That is why she always calls me on Face Time and not on the regular phone. She wants eye-to-eye contact.

And really, don’t we all. We want to know that someone is paying attention when we talk.

Have you had a conversation where there wasn’t much paying attention going on? Perhaps the TV was on or cell phones were in use. Or like me, you were busy doing chores.

While you might have been having a conversation with someone, did you feel neglected because the other person wasn’t paying attention to you? Or maybe you were the one doing the neglecting.

Conversation requires both people being involved in listening and speaking. And a meaningful way to show that we are focused on them is by looking at the other person, giving them our undivided attention.

Kindness is paying attention. It is looking at someone when they talk. It is not doing anything else.

 

 

Your Turn . . . How good of a listener are you?  . . . Do you prefer people look you in the eyes when you are having a conversation?

You can practice being kind by leaving me a comment. 

Want to know what other acts of Kindness are on the list? Go to my Landing Page . . Scattering Kindness: A 31 Day Adventure of Intentional & Random Acts of Service.  

Please leave me an idea or two that I can add to my acts of kindness list. The idea can be intentional or random.

Go here for yesterday’s post: Leaving a Surprise in a Library Book

Related Posts . . .

Previous #Write31Days Topics

Thanks go to Elizabeth Symington for making my #Write31Days button and basic graphic for the kindness quotes. Elizabeth is writing a 31 days series on Summer of Service in Yosemite.

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