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16 Ways to Comfort Yourself, Part 3/3

Un-managed stress can adversely affect your body, thoughts, emotions, sleep cycle, and relationships. You can  manage stress by learning how to provide yourself with comfort.

This is a 3 part series on how we can comfort ourselves. Part One is here. Part Two is here. And part Three is here.

The Holidays often bring extra stress to an already stressed life. Managing your stress is a key to enjoying life and protecting your health. This last post in a three-part series in “comfort” lists some additional ways to comfort yourself.

Comfort of Nature

The richness of the rain made me feel safe and protected; I have always considered the rain to be healing — a blanket — the comfort of a friend. Without at least some rain in any given day, or at least a cloud or two on the horizon, I feel overwhelmed by the information of sunlight and yearn for the vital, muffling gift of falling water. Douglas Coupland, Life After God

Your Turn . . . What in nature brings you comfort?

Some people prefer bright sunshine and sunbathing makes them feel cheery. I don’t care for being in the bright, hot sun. But being in a sun-filtered forest filled with chirping birds, wind-strewn leaves, moss-covered trees, and muffled streams comforts me.

Rainbows, windy days, and walking along the beach also bring me comfort.

Comfort of People

No, I like being a role model because I know how much comfort my musical idols brought me.  Shirley Manson

It was a huge comfort to have a person who’d keep you honest with yourself and who also gave you safe harbour. Lauren Dane, Taking Care of Business

Families are the compass that guide us. They are the inspiration to reach great heights, and our comfort when we occasionally falter. Brad Henry

Oh the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are. Dinah Maria Mulock

When you get lost in a really strange place, nothing is more comforting than found your friend whom you trust and can show the way. Toba Beta, My Ancestor Was an Ancient Astronaut

Your Turn . . . Do you find comfort with a particular person or group of people? If yes, who and why?

There are several individuals in whose company I feel comfort. I feel this way because we have common interests like crafting, cooking, blogging, and/or talking about God and growing in His Word. And we accept one another for who we are, stray chin hairs and all.

Comfort of Possessions

But Piglet is so small that he slips into a pocket, where it is very comfortable to feel him when you are not quite sure whether twice seven is twelve or twenty-two. A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Poohlike a blankie or stuffed animal

Your Turn . . . What possessions bring you comfort?

I want to say my photos are my most comforting possessions. But I am not good about organizing them or printing them. I think that my lifestyle shows that books are my most comforting possessions. I come back to them again and again to renew my thinking, comfort my spirits, and bring me close to God.

Comfort of Rituals

There is a comfort in rituals, and rituals provide a framework for stability when you are trying to find answers. Deborah Norville

Your Turn . . . Do you have rituals? Which ones bring you comfort?

I am not a very ritualized person. But I do have one ritual that brings me great comfort. For the past 6 years or so my family and I have gone to the ocean for Thanksgiving. We take all the traditional food, chairs, firewood, wind break, blankets, and toys and set up for the day and evening.

While growing up Thanksgiving was about eating too much and watching TV (Macy’s Day Parade and football). This newer ritual is about the comfort of being with family and friends and taking in the majesty and comfort of the ocean.

Comfort of Words

Sometimes I’m so deeply buried under self-reproaches that I long for a word of comfort to help me dig myself out again. Anne Frank, The Diary of a Young Girl

Tell us please, what treatment in an emergency is administered by ear?”….I met his gaze and I did not blink. “Words of comfort,” I said to my father. Abraham Verghese, Cutting for Stone

“Once upon a time,” he said out loud to the darkness. He said these words because they were the best, the most powerful words that he knew and just the saying of them comforted him. Kate DiCamillo, The Tale of Despereaux

Words of comfort, skillfully administered, are the oldest therapy known to man. Louis Nizer

Your Turn . . . Are there words that always bring you comfort? Who says them? Do you hear them often enough? Why or why not?

The words said during communion always bring me comfort. They remind me of God’s immense, eternal love and forgiveness.

I like being addressed with the words “Auntie” and “God-Mother.” They bring me a sense of place and belonging which comforts me.

Two previous posts in this series discuss other ways of providing self-comfort.

  1. Go here for Part 1 (activity, animals, authors, being right, books)
  2. Go here for Part 2 (drink, example, food, God, home, music).
  3. This is Part 3 (nature, people, possessions, rituals, words), the final post in this series.

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During November I am writing or posting a photo about something for which I am grateful. This explains why. 

Gratitude for November 23: I am grateful for ancestors who came to America from the Old World in order to find a free place to worship. I am grateful for their perseverance and example. I am grateful that at least one ancestor followed God with love, dedication, and intelligence. That ancestor was Benjamin Rush.

I am thinking about my ancestors because yesterday was Thanksgiving. And this time of year always reminds me of the first Thanksgiving and the people who were living in New England.

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Your Turn . . . 

  • What is your favourite and most immediate way of self-soothing?
  • Which of the above tools do you use?
  • What would you add to the list?
  • Which one(s) would you like to try today or this week?

Related Post . . . Peaceful Ending to a Wonderful Day in a Land of the Long White Cloud

 

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16 Ways to Comfort Yourself, Part 2/3

Whether gathering indoors or outside, it is important for your mental/emotional health to gather with your small group and family/friends regularly.

This is a 3 part series on how we can comfort ourselves. Part One is here. Part Two is here. And part Three is here.

Life is complicated, too busy, and so many facets of it are uncertain. Without a good support system and a way to self-sooth, we would go bonkers. A massage by a professional masseuse, evenings with my small group, and time with a friend are all comfort activities for me.

Below are some other ways to surround yourself with the healing of comfort. Two other posts in this series list comfort quotes and additional ways of providing self-comfort.

Comfort of Drink

I am so fond of tea that I could write a whole dissertation on its virtues. It comforts and enlivens without the risks attendant on spirituous liquors. Gentle herb! Let the florid grape yield to thee. Thy soft influence is a more safe inspirer of social joy. James Boswell

Actually, this seems to be the basic need of the human heart in nearly every great crisis – a good hot cup of coffee. Alexander King

Your Turn . . . Is there a drink that brings you comfort? Why?

English Breakfast Tea, Cinnamon Tea, and Hot Chocolate are comfort drinks to my body. The hot drink remind me of times I’ve had with family and friends and they relax my body. I also like the added comfort of a hand-knit blanket and a fire in the fireplace.

Comfort of Example

When I am about to embark on a difficult journey, I comfort myself by reading the accounts of the great nineteenth-century travellers, men like Stanley, Burton, Speke, Burckhardt and Barth. Tahir Shah, In Search of King Solomon’s Mines

I found the prospect daunting, but somehow comforting, too, because the counselors insisted it could be done, and, after all, many of them were recovering alcoholics themselves. Craig Ferguson, American on Purpose: The Improbable Adventures of an Unlikely Patriot

It struck her how eating was a comfort during a hard time because it reminded you that there had been other days, good days, when you’d eaten the same thing. Reminded you there were good days in life, when precious little else did. Ron Rash, Serena

Your Turn . . . What stories from others bring you comfort?

A friend shares the details of a hard life about wayward children with me. I share stories from my life and other stories of hope from moms with way-ward children.

After the words, after the tears, and after the prayers, she almost always says, “Tell me I will make it through this.” I tell her and I believe it.

Comfort of Food

I love to cook comfort food. I’ll make fish and vegetables or meat and vegetables and potatoes or rice. The ritual of it is fun for me, and the creativity of it. Reese Witherspoon

I like a well-roasted rotisserie chicken and eggs cooked various ways, like sunny-side up or scrambled. It’s comfort food for me.  Joel Robuchon

Never underestimate how much assistance, how much satisfaction, how much comfort, how much soul and transcendence there might be in a well-made taco and a cold bottle of beer. Tom Robbins, Jitterbug Perfume

Your Turn . . .  Is there a particular food that comforts you?

Chocolate, Breyer’s Natural Vanilla Ice Cream, Pot Roast with Veggies, and Spaghetti are all comfort foods to me.

Sometimes I get comfort by making the meal. Sometimes the comfort comes by eating the meal with someone. Sometimes comfort floods me as I remember early childhood scenes associated with the food. And sometimes it is the high calories and the body’s immediate access to tons of sugar that improves my comfort level.

Comfort of God

Now, God be praised, that to believing souls gives light in darkness, comfort in despair. William Shakespeare

There was a lot of Southern Baptist preachers and some yelling ones but mostly we had a pastor who didn’t scream and I found a lot of comfort and joy and peace as a child hearing the Bible. Victoria Jackson

Your Turn . . . Do you find comfort in God? How? When?

This is honestly one of my favourite ways to find comfort. I find it by reading and copying Scripture into a notebook. Talking to God and then listening for His reply are also important in my comfort process.

Comfort of Home

There is nothing like staying at home for real comfort. Jane Austen

Your Turn . . . Are you a home-body or do you prefer to get your comfort in some other place?

If I am not at the ocean or at the Garden of the Gods (Colorado Springs) my best place of comfort is at home. It is peaceful, safe, and houses artifacts of my life – my memories.

Comfort of Music

I like to say, jazz music is kind of like my musical equivalent of comfort food. You know, it’s always where I go back to when I just want to feel sort of grounded.  Molly Ringwald

Your Turn . . . Music is a powerful force. Does it bring you comfort? If yes, which genre?

I like smooth jazz and contemporary praise music. Praise music helps me focus on God and praise Him. Jazz does something positive to my emotions.

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16 Ways to Comfort Yourself Series

Two other posts in this series discuss other ways of providing self-comfort.

  1. Go here for Part 1 (activity, animals, authors, being right, books).
  2. This post is Part 2 (drink, example, food, God, home, music).
  3. Go here for Part 3 (nature, people, possessions, rituals, words),                                             the final post in this series.
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During November I am writing or posting a photo about something for which I am grateful. This explains why.  

My gratitude posting for November 18: I am grateful for the freedom of worship I have. It is not a dangerous or outlawed activity. My place of worship is close to home and thus is easily accessed. While some of my friends and family may not have the same opinion about worship, I am not in danger of being killed or ostracized because of it.

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Your Turn . . .

  • What are your favourite and most immediate ways of self-soothing?
  • Which of the above tools do you use?
  • What would you add to the list?
  • Which one(s) would you like to try today or this week?

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16 Ways to Comfort Yourself, Part 1/3

Walking by the water always brings me comfort. I am most comforted when there are sounds of deafening waves and wind blowing across my body.

This is a 3 part series on how we can comfort ourselves. Part One is here. Part Two is here. And part Three is here.

How do people comfort themselves? If you are a baby a pacifier, a blanket, or nursing are all acceptable forms of calming. Toddlers get it by snuggling a safe adult or a stuffed animal. Youths find comfort in fairness, routine, and boundaries.

Self-soothing is a skill we hope to learn early in life. But what comforts adults? John Bunyan says it is a quiet mind: “If we have not quiet in our minds, outward comfort will do no more for us than a golden slipper on a gouty foot.”

How do you get that quiet mind? Do you . . . 

  • Put on your sweats after a hard day at work?
  • Turn on the TV and watch the shows in your TIVO queue?
  • Lace on athletic shoes and go for a hard run?
  • Stuff your body with sugar?
  • Find someone to help?

The more ways we can self-soothe, the better job we will do at being comforted. Because if one thing doesn’t work, we have other choices available to us. Obviously the healthier our choices are, the better long-term health we will have.

Below are some quotes about things that bring comfort.

Comfort of Activity

Art should comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable. Cesar A. Cruz

Music is amazing. There’s some metaphysical comfort where it allows you to be isolated and alone while telling you that you are not alone… truly, the only cure for sadness is to share it with someone else. Wayne Coyne

Reading was my escape and my comfort, my consolation, my stimulant of choice: reading for the pure pleasure of it, for the beautiful stillness that surrounds you when you hear an author’s words reverberating in your head. Paul Auster, The Brooklyn Follies

Smoking had become my favorite thing in the world to do. It was like having instant comfort, no matter where or when. Augusten Burroughs, Running With Scissors

Comfort of Animals

A cat’s purr is a uniquely soothing sound, and the wagging tail of a dog can lift your spirits in times of trouble. It has been scientifically proven, too, that pets are a factor in lowering blood pressure. . . . . Rabbits, ferrets, hamsters and birds all offer companionship. And many of us find it wonderfully relaxing to watch fish swim in an aquarium.  Read the rest of the squidoo page here.

One reason a dog can be such a comfort when you’re feeling blue is that he doesn’t try to find out why. Anonymous

Comfort of Authors

I carry Yeats with me wherever I go. He’s my constant companion. I always can find some comfort in Yeats no matter what the situation is. Months and months and months go by and I know I need to switch to Shelley or somebody else, but right now Yeats is enough for me. Linda Hamilton

I would self-medicate with fat, carbohydrates, and Jane Austen, my number one drug of choice, my constant companion through every breakup, every disappointment, every crisis. Men might come and go, but Jane Austen was always there in sickness and in health, for richer, for poorer, till death do us part. Laurie Viera Rigler, Confessions of a Jane Austen Addict

Comfort of Being Right

You may take great comfort from the fact that suffering inwardly for the sake of truth proves abundantly that one loves it and marks one out as being of the elect. Ernest Renan

Comfort of Books

I have a shelf of comfort books, which I read when the world closes in on me or something untoward happens. Anne McCaffrey

My mother had comforted me with tales ever since I was small. Sometimes they helped me peel a problem like an onion, or gave me ideas about what to do; other times, they calmed me so much that I would fall into a soothing sleep. My father used to say that her tales were better than the best medicine. Sighing, I burrowed into my mother’s body like a child, knowing that the sound of her voice would be a balm on my heart. Anita Amirrezvani, The Blood of Flowers

So go back to the books. They will comfort you and cheer you. If you earnestly work with them, neither sorrow nor anxiety nor distress nor suffering need trouble your mind any more, no, not evermore. Walter Wangerin Jr., Paul

2 following posts in this series list comfort quotes and discuss additional ways of providing self-comfort. (I will hotlink the posts once they go live.)

  • Go here for Part 2 (drink, example, food, God, home, music).
  • Go here for Part 3 (nature, people, possessions, rituals, words), the final post in this series.
  • This is  Part 1 (activity, animals, authors, being right, books)

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During November I am writing or posting a photo about something for which I am grateful. This explains why.  

My gratitude posting for November 16: I am grateful for my brain. It has a wondrous ability to brainstorm. My brain is active, able to make good choices, and doesn’t have to be overwhelmed by fear.  See II Timothy 1:7. I didn’t realize that I had so many comfort “tools” until I sat down to write this. I bet there are even more!

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 Your Turn . . .

  • What is your favourite and most immediate way of self-soothing?
  • Which of the above tools do you use?
  • What would you add to the list?
  • Which one(s) would you like to try today or this week?

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