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F: FREEDOM to Share Thoughts When There’s Someone Who’ll Listen

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Who is the person/group that listens to you?

Community, friends, tribe, mastermind group, and accountability group can be names for the same type of people. These are people who listen intently, talk candidly, acknowledge your triumphs, and believe in you.

They listen intently to you. When I lived in CO I met with a counselor for a couple of years. I needed to talk with someone who had the expertise to deal with my issues (unhealthy relationships, boundaries, divorce, eating disorder, severe depression). Sometimes I needed to hear strong advice about the next steps. Sometimes I needed someone who could help me sort out the truth from the lies.

But do you know what I mostly needed? I mostly needed the freedom to share my thoughts. I needed someone who would listen to me without judgment or advice. That weekly 50 minutes session was a life-changer.

Potentially any person can do that: listen without commentary, judgment, or advice. But it is hard to do. I think it is hard because we, the listener, hurt for the speaker.

We hurt so much for the person, we want to get them off their pain and onto a solution. That way WE will feel better.

It is thought that husbands are so analytical that they don’t let their wives process very much of their pain and struggles before offering solutions. You know what?

Women do this too. Listen in on any group of women where they are talking about their trials and you are sure to hear several ideas on what to do to fix the problems. And typically the to-do’s are given way before the troubled woman even has a chance to fully share her trouble.

Today I don’t have a counselor who is a good listener. Instead I have some friends who give me the space to talk. They give me the freedom to talk without rushing me on to the answers.

Your Turn . . .

  1. Do you have someone who lets you talk before they give answers?
  2. Are you a person who intently listens before giving answers?

Related Posts . . . 

  1. 20 Ways I Handled My Breaking Heart (from divorce)
  2. 101 Ways to Connect with Others
  3. Boundaries Benefit Me and Others
NOTE: This post is written for the Blogging From A to Z Challenge. There are 22 categories and my category is MI = Miscellaneous.
During the month of April I will post 26 times finishing up posts that have been in my draft fie for at least a year. For a list if all the post go to the A-Z button on my header.
Today’s letter is F. The topic is FREEDOM To Share When There’s Someone Who’ll Listen.

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