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How do you guard against complaining? It is so easy to complain. Too many times complaining is our first response. Such words seem to be on auto-pilot.
But I want to be more than complaint free. I want to be filled with solutions and GRATITUDE.
Thus I bought a silver (plated) bracelet with Gratitude stamped on it. And like Bowen’s challenge states, I put it on one wrist. Every time I complain, I switch it to the other wrist. My experiment is over when the bracelet stays on one wrist for 21 days in a row. Hopefully a new habit has been formed by that time.
To counter-balance the negativity coming out of my mouth, I will use fruitful words. If/when I complain, I want to think about the situation and say how I can be grateful because of the situation or in-spite of the situation. And if there is one, I want to state a solution.
Complaining is a basic foundation of many of our conversations. When we greet one another, we often complain about the weather, our busy lives, and how tired we are. I actually thought I was immune to that.
Unfortunately I am not immune to this surface, mindless chatter. On Day 3 (of #Write31Days), I greeted a friend and she initiated our conversation by stating how cold she was. I replied back, “And I am HOT! I hate being hot.” No solutions were offered by either, just the complaint.
I was embarrassed by how easily I added my complaint.
I moved my bracelet and spoke my words of solution and gratitude. . . . I am grateful that I can easily cool down with a fan or iced beverage. . . . I am grateful that in-spite of the heat, I won’t get a sunburn [I was indoors] and soon the weather will cool down.
I am now on Day 8 of no complaining. I started this experiment on October 1st. Because the bracelet moves around on my wrist, I am constantly reminded about my intention to not complain. I don’t normally wear bracelets. If you do, maybe this wouldn’t be a helpful remembering tool for you.
Your Turn . . .
- Do you find that complaining is a mindless, automatic response more times than you’d like to admit? If yes, how do you combat that?
- How do the complaints of others impact you?
- Do you think something like a bracelet would help you stop complaining? Why or why not?
Related Resources . . .
- Choosing Gratitude As a Way of Living & Feeling
- The Gratitude Diaries: How a Year Looking on the Bright Side Can Transform Your Life by Janice Kaplan. This is one of the best books I’ve read on the subject.
- 31 Days of Finishing (2014 #Write31Days series)
- Finding Laughter (2015 #Write31Days series)
Today is Day 10 of the #Write31Days online writing challenge. My topic is 31 Days of Fruitful Words INSTEAD OF COMPLAINING. I know I will be challenged in more ways than writing every day. If you’d like to have more fruitful words coming from your mouth, please join me from October 1-31, 2016.
Go here for the landing page which has all the posts from this series.
Go here to see what #Write31Days is all about, the categories and the bloggers who are participating.
- One stat says we complain 30 times a day. That’s 10,959 times in one year.
- Another stat says we complain eight minutes and 46 seconds each day. “That is 53 hours each year in a huff,” says Tamara Cohen.
My daily complaint average is probably between 5-30 times. This is especially true if I have a lot of driving to do, deal with a lot of service providers or the technology I use is slow, or doesn’t work. The bad thing about complaining is that I don’t feel better after doing so. I FEEL frustrated, angry, helpless, ARGH!
And because complainers (like me) don’t normally talk to the person involved, the situation doesn’t get resolved. This is certainly true in my case. So now I feel doubly frustrated, angry and helpless.
This month I am going to do no complaining. I like the campaign started by Will Bowen, a pastor from Kansas City. The idea is simple – go 21 days in a row without complaining. If/when you do complain, you start over.
Bowen suggests using a bracelet to track this. Directions – – – You put it on one wrist. Every time you complain, switch to the other wrist. Your experiment is over when the bracelet stays on one wrist for 21 days in a row.
Here are some ideas to track your No-Complaining . . .
- Buy a purple Complaint Free World bracelet from Bowen’s online store.
- Use a rubber band to track this.
- There is an app that can help you with your tracking.
- Use a calendar a la Jerry Seinfeld style. Dedicate a calendar to this project. Everyday you go complaint free, put a big X through the day. Complain? Start over at Day 1. Your goal is to get 21 X’s in a row.
However I want to do more than a grumble-fast this month. I want to replace my negative words with positive, fruitful ones. And I want to cultivate a mindset that is anti-negative. That is where a good portion of this month’s writing will focus.
To help with this focus, I bought a thin silver-plated bracelet with the word “GRATITUDE”stamped on it.
Today is DAY 1: Goal – NO complaining.
Your Turn . . .
- What types of things do you complain about?
- How many times a day do you think you complain? Is this a problem for you or those around you?
- Do your complaints change the situation/people (in a positive way)?
- Leave a comment.
- Join me! If you join, how will you track your no complaining?
Related Resources . . .
Read about two folks who took this challenge and the impact it had on them.
- Why My Attempt To Go 21 Days Without A Whinge Took Me Six Months by
- I Went 21 Days Without Complaining And It Changed My Life by Tim Ferris
I am joining 100’s of others at #write31days to write every day in October on a single topic. My topic is 31 Days of Fruitful Words. The category is Personal Endeavors. I will spend time each day on this topic to improve the quality of my thinking and the words coming out of my mouth
Go here for the landing page which has all the posts in one spot.
I am committing to this online writing challenge. My topic is 31 Days of Fruitful Words INSTEAD OF COMPLAINING. I know I will be challenged in more ways than writing every day. If you’d like to have more fruitful words coming from your mouth, please join me from October 1-31, 2016