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Five Blessings and No Complaints

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Time to remember and share another five blessings from this past week. Doing this helps me stay on target with no complaining. I am doing this gratitude exercise and linking up at Susanne’s blog, Living to Tell the Story. Join us in this weekly meme. There is plenty of room.

I am on Day 19. My goal is 21 days in a row of not complaining.

Blessing #1I made it through another week of not complaining. I almost lost it on Day 17 but I remembered in the knick of time to ask for what I wanted. Asking for What You Want Is Scary But It Stops Complaining. On Day 18 I was able to stop my complaining mid-sentence. Adding a “BUT” Turned Situation from Complaining to Resolved.

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Blessing #2 – I spent the day with my grand children on Saturday. We hugged and talked. We walked to a harvest festival where we ate pizza with cheese and basil, walked through a HUGE bubble and petted a goat and bunnies.

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Blessing #3 – I had creative time. I was at a team meeting tonight and one of the ladies said, “If Susan is involved in something there will be a craft.” Yep, and even when I visit my grand kiddos there will be a craft. Saturday night we decorated faux pumpkins from the Dollar Store. The medium choices were paint and/or gluing on torn bits of construction paper. I did only gluing. Sofia chose to glue on paper and paint. Tia chose the only painting option. That one was given away to a friend.  . . . The pumpkin on the far right is melted crayons. I made it two weeks ago and when I showed Sofia (via FaveTime) she asked  if she could have it. Of course, sweat pea. Of course.

Blessing #4 – I had a healthy and tasty snack 3 days last week. It was an easy to prepare, old-fashioned snack of cold, fresh celery logs topped with almond butter. Yummm. I cannot remember the last time I ate that. I need to buy more celery and almond butter.


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I have a photography app on my iPhone that I’ve had forever and I just started using it this week: PicsArt. It is so fun. It turns photos into watercolour, deco art and so on. This is the photo that I doctored.

I love the quote, too: “Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings.” I want to live my life this way.

Your Turn . . . 

  1. What is your easiest, favourite, healthy snack? Do share.
  2. How do you release your creative juices?

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Read about two folks who took this challenge and the impact it had on them.

I am joining 100’s of others at #write31days to write every day in October on a single topic. My topic is 31 Days of Fruitful Words. The category is Personal Endeavors. I will spend time each day on this topic to improve the quality of my thinking and the words coming out of my mouth

I am committing to this online writing challenge. My topic is 31 Days of Fruitful Words INSTEAD OF COMPLAINING. I know I will be challenged in more ways than writing every day. If you’d like to have more fruitful words coming from your mouth, please join me from October 1-31, 2016

Today is Day 21 of the #Write31Days online October writing challenge. My topic is 31 Days of Fruitful Words INSTEAD OF COMPLAINING. I know I will be challenged in more ways than writing every day. If you’d like to have more fruitful words coming from your mouth, please join me from October 1-31, 2016.

Go here to see what #Write31Days is all about, the categories and the bloggers who are participating.

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Asking for What You Want Is Scary But It Stops Complaining

fruitfulwords1Yesterday I was told to hush and stop sharing my opinions on my Facebook page. This is what I naively shared . . .

“A measure of any society is how it treats its’ women and its’ girls,” Michelle Obama. . . . Women/girls being treated poorly, bothers me. . . . . “This is disgraceful and intolerable. It doesn’t matter what party we belong to. This isn’t about politics. It is about right and wrong.”

The conversation took on a life of its own. So I took the conversation to the private arena of Facebook Messenger with one person. That person told me (among other things) that I should hush as my views were contentious, disingenuous, a disappointment and flat-out wrong.

I felt dismissed and bullied and let my feelings get hurt. Because of past situations I let my reaction be bigger than was called for. Instead of talking to the person, I complained to my sister.

I had good reasons (I thought) to not talk to the responsible party.

  • I was afraid of her response back to me.
  • I don’t like confrontation.
  • I am not good with words.

But this morning I did. I thought and thought and then wrote how I felt and why. I wrote to her because we have good history (I thought) and because I would no longer be dismissed and silenced by others.

I asked for what I wanted.

I’d like to think we could agree to disagree concerning how we express our views. I respectfully give you space to do as you feel led and I’d like the same respect back.

And if we can’t, then we part ways.

Complaining made me feel … yucky … a victim … hopeless.  . . .  And there was no resolution.

Because I choose to take positive action, I feel  . . .

  • Yucky. I still feel this way because I have high regard for this person and this may truly be the end of the relationship. And I am still wounded by her words.
  • Empowered. It felt good and strong to express how I felt as a result of her words and attitude.
  • Proud. Like I said, I don’t like confrontation. But saying something is the only way through to us having an equal, respectful and honest relationship. And I am proud I showed enough respect for myself to say anything.

And while the situation is not resolved regarding our relationship, it is resolved in that I took the steps I needed to take.

F.Y.I – My sister is good about listening and then pointing me to taking a positive step to rectify the situation.

Today is Day 17 of my No Complaining Challenge. . . . I’ve discovered that a reason I complain is because I am too fearful to politely speak up and ask for a positive resolution. Today I took action and asked.

Your Turn . . . Does fear of confrontation lead you to complain instead of positively addressing the situation?

Related Resources . . .

  1. Goal: Complaint Free for a Whole Month
  2. You Just Might be a Potty Mouth
  3. 31 Days of Finishing (2014 #Write31Days series)
  4. Finding Laughter (2015 #Write31Days series)

Today is Day 19 of the #Write31Days online October writing challenge. My topic is 31 Days of Fruitful Words INSTEAD OF COMPLAINING. I know I will be challenged in more ways than writing every day. If you’d like to have more fruitful words coming from your mouth, please join me from October 1-31, 2016.

Go here for the landing page which has all the posts from this series.

Go here to see what #Write31Days is all about, the categories and the bloggers who are participating.

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Adding a “BUT” Turned Situation from Complaining to Resolved

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I don’t normally drive my older car because it has a (new) history of wanting to die. It has been in the shop a couple of times and we can’t figure out why. However, yesterday I drove it to work to make sure the battery got enough of a workout. I had no issues going to work.

But on the way home the engine kept sputtering like it was going to quit. I hit every light. I was getting more and more agitated as my car kept getting more and more agitated.

I was afraid. At the next to last light before my home I cried out loud,

“Oh, NO! I can’t believe it, This car is going to die on me.”

I realized I was in full complaint mode.

Here I was on day 16/21 of no complaining.  And now because I was complaining I was going to have to change my bracelet to the other wrist. Then in the midst of my distress I remembered how to choose the complaint that brings peace.

I added a “BUT” to my sentence. I added words of a positive solution.

“Oh, NO! I can’t believe it, This car is going to die on me.”

Then I continued speaking out loud with these words . . .

“BUT if it does die, I will be okay. I can coast to the side of the road. I have a towing package. I can call for help. This is not the worst thing that can happen. I am safe.”

And you know what? I calmed down. It was okay. And luckily the car didn’t die. 

Even while stressed OUT, I really was able to go from a non-productive compliant to a solution-oriented response.

Adding that BUT turned my attitude and thinking around. It helped me with my fear. And because I was calm, I was able to find a good solution. High Five!

Your Turn . . .

  • When you find yourself mid-sentence in a complaint, how do you turn that around?

Related Resources . . . 

Today is Day 18 of the #Write31Days online October writing challenge. My topic is 31 Days of Fruitful Words INSTEAD OF COMPLAINING. I know I will be challenged in more ways than writing every day. If you’d like to have more fruitful words coming from your mouth, please join me from October 1-31, 2016.

Go here for the landing page which has all the posts from this series.

Go here to see what #Write31Days is all about, the categories and the bloggers who are participating.

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Do More Than Count Blessings, Be a Blessing

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Do you count your blessings on a regular basis? Many, many folks do including me. This practice helps us look for the good in our lives and reminds us that there is a LOT of good there.

Weekly I compile my five favorite blessings from the past week. I even try to link up on Fridays at Living to Tell the Story with others who are doing the same. Reading their 5 favorite blessings reminds me that I have similar blessings in my life. And so my list grows bigger. My gratitude grows bigger.

I thought this was the best way to grow my gratitude. Then I read the following:

After several days of writing down my blessings, I read the lists and realized everything was all about me. Shouldn’t I be blessing to others?

After that realization, my journaling changed.

Not only did I list five blessings that happened for me, but also five ways in which I had reached out to bless others. . . .

By hunting for the blessings in my day, my mind was focused on the good, not on the disappointments.

By thinking of ways to reach out and help someone, my mind was focused on others, not on my own little problems.

~ Helen F Wilder ~ Chicken Soup for the Soul: The Power of Gratitude – 101 Stories about how Being Thankful Can Change Your Life

 What a great Idea. I know that I do kind things for others. I enjoy doing purposeful,  random acts of kinds. But I never thought to make this a daily practice.

I am going to do this and will start with one thing. I am a gung-ho- kind-of-person. I start projects, new habits, and goals at the Expert Level instead of starting at the beginner level. And too many times I quickly burn myself out.

Also I will include that one thing I do in my daily  journal.

Your Turn . . .

  1. What is your experience with counting your blessings?
  2. How do you pace yourself when starting new things? I can use some tips here.
  3. Is the idea of being a purposeful daily blessing new to you? If it is, will you try this with me?

Related Resources . . .

No Complaining Update: I am now on Day 15/21 of no complaining. I am going to add today’s idea, being a blessing, in addition to not complaining.

Today is Day 17 of the #Write31Days online October writing challenge. My topic is 31 Days of Fruitful Words INSTEAD OF COMPLAINING. I know I will be challenged in more ways than writing every day. If you’d like to have more fruitful words coming from your mouth, please join me from October 1-31, 2016.

Go here for the landing page which has all the posts from this series.

Go here to see what #Write31Days is all about, the categories and the bloggers who are participating.

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I am Not an Equal Opportunity Complainer

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Do you complain in all negative situations?

I realized today while doing a Bible study that I am not an equal opportunity complainer. I don’t complain in front of all people and in all negative or frustrating situations.

I complain when my expectations are not met in several areas: traffic, poor service and when technology is s….l…o…w… or not working.

Traffic – I realize that too many times I am in a hurry even if there is plenty of time to get to where I am going. I just want to be there NOW. So I complain about the driving about me. I do not give them the benefit of the doubt when they cut me off. This is plain ugly.

Antidote to Traffic

Live in the now. Enjoy this moment. To enjoy the moment-to-moment driving experience I can do the following: …  pray … sing along with upbeat music … listen to an audio-book … look for ways to bless other drivers … Decide to NOT take any bad driving around me in a personal way … Give drivers the benefit of the doubt.

Poor Service – I feel justified in my complaints since I’ve paid for this. However just complaining to complain gets me or the situation nowhere. However I can complain in a way that brings me peace.

Antidote to Poor Service

Solution Oriented Complaints. Assess the situation. Determine what a good resolution is. Ask for it in a calm, polite manner. Keep asking in a calm, polite manner until resolution is achieved.

However, if there is truly no way to rectify the situation, then accept it.

S….L…O…W… or non-functioning Technology. These situations exasperate me because I feel helpless and stupid, but mainly stupid. I will SIGH and mutter complaints. This always makes me feel worse.

Antidote t S….L…O…W… or non-functioning Technology.

Tell the Truth. Why I think and feel like I should know how to handle tech issues is beyond me.  I need to tell myself the truth. I am not stupid. I can get people to help with these issues. And the reason they can help is because they’ve studied and been trained.

Your Turn . . .

  1. Do you complain equally in all situations? If not, where do you tend to complain?
  2. If you tend to complain in the same sorts of situations, what can you do to counter your complaints. What is your personal antidote?
  3. Is there anything you would add to make my antidotes more effective?

No Complaining Update: I am now on Day 14/21 of no complaining.

Today is Day 16 of the #Write31Days online October writing challenge. My topic is 31 Days of Fruitful Words INSTEAD OF COMPLAINING. I know I will be challenged in more ways than writing every day. If you’d like to have more fruitful words coming from your mouth, please join me from October 1-31, 2016.

Go here for the landing page which has all the posts from this series.

Go here to see what #Write31Days is all about, the categories and the bloggers who are participating.

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Using H.A.L.T. to a Complaint-Free Life

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Our internal world influences how we see the external world. Some folks are better than others at handling their internal world. What is negative to one person is merely an annoyance or even a non-issue to others.

Have you heard of the acronym H.A.L.T.? These are internal influences I first heard about several years ago from a friend who has been successful in recovery for years and years and years (from alcohol). She said that H.A.L.T. is talked about in A.A.

When we experience certain internal “conditions” we find it harder to calmly address external situations. If we are unaware of their influence, we tend to act out. And in my case, I tend to complain instead of making choices that bring peace.

Because I know about H.A.L.T.’s influence, I can make sure I DON’T let myself get to H.A.L.T. But when I do, I can quickly take the proper steps to address these.

What is H.A.L.T. and what can you do?

Hungry– Eat protein as soon as possible.

Angry – Take deep breaths. Pray. Asses the truth of the situation. Let go of unrealistic expectations. Ask for what you need in a calm manner. Come up with solution oriented answers to what has angered you.

Lonely – Connect with someone. Contact a good friend and talk or put a date on the calendar for a “date.” Execute an act of kindness. Pray. Read something uplifting. Write a letter. Learn to be content.

Tired – Take a nap or go to bed for the night. Eat a healthy snack. Drink a glass of water. Meditate. Lighten your to-do load for the time being. Ask for help.

Another “H” that needs watching out for is Hormonal. Now that I am past menopause and don’t feel the ravages of hormones, I realize how many times I was affected by them. And I realize how many times I complained while under their influence. This is not to say the issues weren’t issues, but sometimes my reaction was stronger than the situation called for.

What I Learned From H.A.L.T.

  • Help myself live a positive life by being aware when I am hungry, angry, lonely, and/or tired.
  • When I am in any of these states, take quick, positive action.
  • Postpone any complaining until after the internal situation has been dealt with.

Your Turn . . .

  • How have you used H.A.L.T. to your benefit?
  • Are there any other internal situations that lead you to complain? If yes, what can you do about it?

Related Resources . . . 

No Complaining Update: I am now on Day 13/21 of no complaining.

Today is Day 15 of the #Write31Days online October writing challenge. My topic is 31 Days of Fruitful Words INSTEAD OF COMPLAINING. I know I will be challenged in more ways than writing every day. If you’d like to have more fruitful words coming from your mouth, please join me from October 1-31, 2016.

Go here for the landing page which has all the posts from this series.

Go here to see what #Write31Days is all about, the categories and the bloggers who are participating.

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Using Fruitful Words to Combat Complaining

fff-delicate-leavesIt is Friday and so I want to look back at my last week and share five of my favorite blessings.  Filling my head with good news, positive memories, and great outcomes help me stave off complaining. This is my No Complaining Month.

If you’d like to join in with Friday’s Fave Five, write a post and link it here to Susanne’s meme. She writes at Living to Tell the Story.

ONE. I bought a new bottle of shampoo. It smells yummy (coconut) and makes my hair feel so soft. Why is it that I run out of shampoo way before I run out of hair conditioner? Do you have that issue?

fruitfulwords125TWO. This month is #Write31Days. My topic and action plan is No Complaining.

  • My 1st goal is to not complain for 21 days in a row. I had one set back so I am on Day 12 of no complaining. I am wearing a Gratitude bracelet to help me stay alert.
  • My 2nd goal is to have only fruitful words come out of my mouth: praise, gratitude, positive solutions. I am grateful for this opportunity to make sure I keep a guard on my lips and that I have a cheerful attitude especially when times are a challenge (like when I am driving).

THREE. I am connected with a school in the Middle East that accepts kiddos with special needs. I am grateful for Facebook because we get periodic updates. This week one of the youngsters received a wheelchair from a grant. His life is a little easier now. And the smile on the student’s face is AWESOME. And because pf Facebook a bunch of us could share in the joy of this answered prayer.

all-at-ksfFOUR.  Last weekend I went to So Cal with a mom and her teens. Each teen brought a friend and I was the friend for the mom. We went to Knott Scary Farm and Huntington Beach. Both venues were a lot of fun. And I experienced a lot of firsts: funnel cake, white chocolate candy, Knott Scary Farm, and listening to the Bible on DVD. We listened to Mathew-Luke.

FIVE. MY BED. I really enjoy my job – a lot. But I also enjoy vacation days. We had Monday off and I did a lot of sleeping. I caught up from my time in So Cal. So the last item on my gratitude list is my bed. It is so comfy. And being able to wear pj’s ALL DAY added to me feeling sooooo relaxed.

Your Turn . . .

  • What is your favourite smell for a shampoo?
  • What do you do to keep yourself from complaining?
  • If you are on Facebook, what do you most appreciate about it?
  • I haven’t been to a haunted house in decades. The ones at Knott Scary Farm were the right amount of scary and fun. I did scream but not from fear, but because I was startled. When was the last time you’ve gone to a Haunted House? Will you go to one this year?
  • If you had a holiday on Monday, what was the most favorite thing you did?

No Complaining Update: I am now on Day 12/21 of no complaining.

Today is Day 14 of the #Write31Days online October writing challenge. My topic is 31 Days of Fruitful Words INSTEAD OF COMPLAINING. I know I will be challenged in more ways than writing every day. If you’d like to have more fruitful words coming from your mouth, please join me from October 1-31, 2016.

Go here for the landing page which has all the posts from this series.

Go here to see what #Write31Days is all about, the categories and the bloggers who are participating.

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Colouring Combats Complaining

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Do you color? Do you know an adult who does?

Coloring  books have become popular with adults.

  • One because it is FUN.
  • Two because it helps reduce stress.

The act of coloring can help adults to focus on the moment and let go of ruminating thoughts. Thus it is like taking a vacation from emotionally charged thinking. There is mental and physical peace in that kind of vacation.

I bought a Gratitude Prayer and Praise Coloring Journal. The idea is to help me put more fruitful words into my mind. I’m going with the theory that Gratitude In = Gratitude Out which would mean less complaining.

The first section I chose to color is Friends: Travel the Road Together. The devotional on the left side reminded me of the importance of community. On the right I wrote about 3 people I am grateful for. I spent 30 minutes coloring while listening to Yiruma’s Greatest Hits ~ Best Piano.

color-and-prayHow My Experience Rated

  • The 30 minutes went by quickly.
  • While I normally prefer silence when I am by myself, listening to Yiruma added to my relaxation.
  • For the first 20 minutes it was surprisingly easy to relax and think only about coloring and the beauty of the music. As thoughts came into my mind, I was able to let them pass on through without giving them much attention.
  • Then at about the 20 minutes mark some distressing thoughts kept rushing into my head. These were thoughts from Facebook about how ugly people have been to each other because of their differing political views. It was really hard to let these thoughts go. I have been avoiding thinking about this issue and I guess my freed up mind then took this opportunity to think.
  • I notice that I don’t like to color detailed pictures. First because I don’t want to spend that much time on something that is not permanent. And secondly because the lines are too small. It would take a LONG time to “properly” color these 2 page spreads. I want to do one section each time I color.
  • I will do this again.

No Complaining Update: I am now on Day 11/21. I think one reason I am so successful (now) is because I am really paying attention to my circumstances and words.

Your Turn . . . 

  • Do you color? If yes, what has your experience been like?
  • How do you think coloring (like this) would impact your complaining?
  • Have you jumped on the no complaining band wagon? If yes, how is it going?

Related Resources . . . 

Today is Day 13 of the #Write31Days online October writing challenge. My topic is 31 Days of Fruitful Words INSTEAD OF COMPLAINING. I know I will be challenged in more ways than writing every day. If you’d like to have more fruitful words coming from your mouth, please join me from October 1-31, 2016.

Go here for the landing page which has all the posts from this series.

Go here to see what #Write31Days is all about, the categories and the bloggers who are participating.

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Choose the Complaint That Will Bring Peace

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All complaints fall into one of two categories: Mindless and Justified.

Mindless complaining is problem focused.

  • We vent, automatically respond with our own complaint after hearing other’s complain, and focus on trashing people, products, and companies.
  • The cycle of negativity, hopelessness, pride, entitlement, and lack of compassion is perpetuated with no end in sight.
  • The result is more anger, frustration, and ill will towards others or ourselves.

Justified complaining is solution oriented.

  • It gives others’ the benefit of the doubt.
  • We take stock of the situation and if there is something we can do, we do it. If there is nothing we can do, we let it go.
  • We get off auto-pilot and take purposeful responsibility for our own negative attitudes and words.
  • The results are satisfying resolutions and peace.

How to Get Out of This Cycle

 “The best way to deal with negativity is to create a positive culture where negativity can’t breed, grow, and survive,” Jon Gordon

Jon Gordon in his book, The No Complaining Rule offers Three Suggestions.

  1. BUT. Anytime you catch yourself grumbling, add the word “but” at the end.  Then complete the sentence with a positive solution or thought.
  2. I GET TO. Anytime you complain about all the stuff that overwhelms you, add these two words, I GET TO Do x, y, and z. Ditch the I Have To Do x, y, and z.
  3. SOLUTION FOCUSED. This is justified complaining. You look at the negative situation and come up with a purposeful, positive plan to solve the problem. Talk only to the folks who can help you with the solution.

“Every complaint represents an opportunity to turn a negative into a positive,”Jon Gordon.

No Complaining Update: I am now on Day 7/21 of no complaining. I have even had a couple of situations where I purposefully came up with positive solutions. I made it a game and therefore, it was fun.

Your Turn . . .

  • What do you think about the idea of Justified Complaining? This is a new concept to me and I like it because it gives me a way to handle those negative situations.
  • Respond to this quote from Jon Gordon, ” I don’t like this or I am not happy about this. … What actions can I take to rectify this?  Let your complaints tell you what you don’t want, so you can focus on what you do want.”
  • What are your complaints telling you? What action will you take this week to bring PEACE into your life?

Related Resources . . .

Today is Day 9 of the #Write31Days online October writing challenge. My topic is 31 Days of Fruitful Words INSTEAD OF COMPLAINING. I know I will be challenged in more ways than writing every day. If you’d like to have more fruitful words coming from your mouth, please join me from October 1-31, 2016.

Go here for the landing page which has all the posts from this series.

Go here to see what #Write31Days is all about, the categories and the bloggers who are participating.

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Why Do We Complain?

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We complain because we  . . .

  • Are Fearful. We feel overwhelmed by the scary situation.
  • Are acting Helpless. We avoid taking responsibility for the situation.
  • Have let complaining become a habitual way to deal with our negative feelings.
  • Are Prideful. Our ideas are the only ones worth considering.
  • Are compassionless. We lack empathy for how people are acting. We don’t give them the benefit of the doubt or appreciate their point-of-view.
  • Want validation for how we reacted to a situation.
  • Are jealous. Complaining about someone knocks them down so we can feel better about ourselves.
  • Think God doesn’t have our best in mind. All complaints boil down to complaints against God (in my worldview).

So How Can We STOP Complaining?

  1. The first step is to acknowledge that we complain.
  2. The next step is to figure out what is causing the complaining. Look at your past week and when you complained. What categories do your complaints fall into?  Which one is most common?

Now go to the post Choose the Complaint That Will Bring Peace.

No Complaining Update: I am now on Day 6/21 of no complaining.

Your Turn . . . 

  • What would you add to the list?
  • Did you identify with any of the reasons to complain? If yes, which one(s)?
  • If you picked one of the above, or added to the list, what action would you like to take to overcome complaining.

Related Resources . . . 

Today is Day 8 of the #Write31Days online October writing challenge. My topic is 31 Days of Fruitful Words INSTEAD OF COMPLAINING. I know I will be challenged in more ways than writing every day. If you’d like to have more fruitful words coming from your mouth, please join me from October 1-31, 2016.

Go here for the landing page which has all the posts from this series.

Go here to see what #Write31Days is all about, the categories and the bloggers who are participating.

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Writing about Good Things Decreases Complaints

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If you’ve forgotten the language of gratitude, you’ll never be on speaking terms with happiness. – Unknown

Every gratitude author and gratitude researcher suggests looking at your life and writing about what make you thankful.

Oddly enough you don’t have to FEEL gratitude in order for this to a helpful  exercise. After writing down your list for 10 weeks or so, you’ll feel happier, more optimistic, calmer and even better physically. Studies suggested that you don’t have to write every day in order for it to be beneficial.

As the authors noted in this study, subjects who reflected on the good things in their life once a week (by writing them down) were more positive and motivated about their current situation and their future. Gregory Ciotti

Being aware of our blessings makes it harder to complain. Seeing it in print is “proof” that life is good and that we have a lot to be thankful for.

There are various ways to do this writing exercise.

ONE. Count your blessings – Write a bullet list (1-5 items) in the morning or evening about what makes you thankful. You can write one thing or set a timer and see how many you come up with.

  • You could also use a book like One Thousand Gifts: A Dare to Live Fully Right Where You Are by Ann Voscamp to keep you company. In this book “Ann invites you to embrace everyday blessings and embark on the transformative spiritual discipline of chronicling God’s gifts.” I am not a journaler but I know many who have benefited from this book which is why I am suggesting it.

TWO. Journal – Write about the good things in your life.

  • I have a 365 day Gratitude Journal, There is space for one thorough description or 15ish bullet  points. I’d like to say I will write in it every day, but journal commitments are not usually my thing.

THREE. Thanks You Notes – Send a note to someone who made your day. It can be someone from your past or someone in your current life.

  • Off and on since 2011, I have been involved in a Gratitude Letter Writing Project. I compiled a list of 48 people I wanted to send thank you notes to. I am no where near finished with this project. I hope to write 6-8 letters by October 31st. Every time I do write a letter I am touched again by the recipient’s kindness to me.

FOUR. Friday’s Fave Fave – This is a meme sponsored by Susanne from Living to Tell the Story. Every Friday bloggers link up with a post about the 5 favorite things from their week. These blessings can be big or small.

  • Lately I haven’t been good about sharing in this blessing fest. I will do this, though, through the end of October (and hopefully longer).

Update on the No Complaining Challenge: I am on Day 5. How are you doing with the No Complaint Challenge?

Your Turn . . . 

  • Do you like to journal? If yes, have you ever keep a gratitude journal or list? Do you have any suggestions on how to make this a regular practice?
  • Are you in the habit of writing thank you notes? When was the last time you wrote one? Received one? How did it make you feel?
  • How about joining this week’s Friday’s Fave Five? It would be fun to hear what your week’s blessings are. And it would be cool to get to know you.

Related Resources . . . 

Today is Day 7 of the #Write31Days online October writing challenge. My topic is 31 Days of Fruitful Words INSTEAD OF COMPLAINING. I know I will be challenged in more ways than writing every day. If you’d like to have more fruitful words coming from your mouth, please join me from October 1-31, 2016.

Go here for the landing page which has all the posts from this series.

Go here to see what #Write31Days is all about, the categories and the bloggers who are participating.

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Complain or Pray

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This is the first Joyce Meyer video I have ever watched. Folks have some strong opinions about her teaching. I found this video (51 minutes) to be helpful, interesting, full of truth, and had some great tidbits to mull over.

Here are the highlights I wrote down.

  • Complain or pray. If you are going to complain about something, don’t bother to pray about it. God doesn’t answer complaints but He does answer prayers of faith.
  • Our complaining hurts. We are hurting our family and the church by all our complaining. Christians should be the least complaining people in the world.
  • What is the problem? Ask, “Is my problem the problem or is my attitude [expressed through complaints] the problem”?
  • Let’s startle and shock the world. Let’s do this by being a BODY of people who do NOT murmur, find fault and complain. Instead, let’s be a people of gratitude and thankfulness.
  • Give Thanks. Everyone of us has a lot more to be thankful for than to complain.
  • The EASIEST thing to do is to complain. You don’t have to try to do this. The flesh must be disciplined by walking in the Spirit. The flesh doesn’t like being uncomfortable, interrupted, or inconvenienced in any way.
  • Complaining doesn’t change anything. It drains you and sucks the life out of you. Instead get a vision to stand up and be the way you should be. You get one by praying and asking God. This is not a passive action.
  • Get a proper perspective. Keep a list of things that are inconveniences, interruptions, or uncomfortable for this month. Then determine how big a deal they really were. Will you remember them in 5 years?

SOME ANTIDOTES

  • Be more aggressive in thanksgiving and gratitude.
  • Stop several times a day and LIVE in the moment, think about and tell God what you are grateful for at that time. Let’s have THANK POWER in our lives.
  • Learn to pray your way through life. Ditch the complaining.

Update on the No Complaining Challenge: I am on Day 4 and going strong.

Your Turn . . .

  1. What tidbits are highlights for you? Mine are as follows: (1) I would love to be part of a movement that startled and shocked the world because Believers were the MOST non-complaining and thankful people around. … (2) I want to have an abundance of THANK power in my life.
  2. What do you think about the advice, “Complain or Pray”?

Related Resources . . . 

Today is Day 6 of the #Write31Days online October writing challenge. My topic is 31 Days of Fruitful Words INSTEAD OF COMPLAINING. I know I will be challenged in more ways than writing every day. If you’d like to have more fruitful words coming from your mouth, please join me from October 1-31, 2016.

Go here for the landing page which has all the posts from this series.

Go here to see what #Write31Days is all about, the categories and the bloggers who are participating.

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