The Three Phases of Becoming Part of CNC

Becoming part of a new group depends on your ability to adapt.

Fitting in is made up of a “taking it in” phase, the “thinking it through” phase, and the “putting it into practice” phase.

Taking things in

First, new people- and event-options are presented to you, the visitor. Your job is to compare this new material with relationships and options you already know, looking for connections and a good fit.

Thinking things through

Secondly, assimilation into a new group doesn’t happen just by considering the options. It takes place once the service is over and you start asking questions.

Real connections begin when you start talking about what you’ve read or heard, consciously looking for what matches with your needs and what you have to offer.

Putting things into practice

Thirdly, take what seems to be the best people-and event-options and try them out.

• Ask that couple next to you in the pew to go to lunch with you and your family.
• Go to that small group one time.
• Attend one men’s game night.
• Grab your needles and help with the afghan ministry for a few weeks.
• Help out at Neighborhood Meals or Respite C.L.U.B. one month.
• Enroll your child in the choir.
• Pamper yourself by attending the women’s Retreat.

Not all choices will work out as a good fit. But each one will give you some history with people at CNC. Participate enough times and soon you’ll be an established family member.

Check out the Small Groups brochure (in the literature rack by the women’s bathroom), adverts on the women’s bathroom stall doors, the weekly bulletins and monthly CrossRoads for more event-options. You’ll be glad you did. And so will we.

Call me if you have any questions.