Grief Can Become Stuck

Up to 20% of the bereaved population will get stuck and develop complicated grief.

Complicated grief is a “delayed or incomplete adaptation to loss or failure in the process of mourning.” [1]

This type of grief gets worse with the passing of time. The grief intrudes into the daily schedule making it difficult, if not impossible, for the bereaved to function well at home, work, and/or in relationships.

Signs and symptoms of complicated grief can include: [2]

• Bitterness about your loss
• Depression or deep sadness
• Difficulty moving on with life
• Extreme focus on the loss and reminders of the loved one
• Feeling that life holds no meaning or purpose
• Inability to enjoy life
• Intense longing or pining for the deceased
• Irritability or agitation
• Lack of trust in others
• Numbness or detachment
• Preoccupation with your sorrow
• Problems accepting the death
• Trouble carrying out normal routines
• Withdrawing from social activities

Sometimes we need help in dealing with painful situations. Grief is a painful situation. There is no shame in needing help.  In fact, I think it is a courageous person who admits their need and then finds and accepts appropriate help. If you find yourself stuck in grief, please talk to someone who has the ability to listen well and support you in your grief work. If you leave a request, I’d love to pray for you.

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[1] http://www.journeyofhearts.org/grief/complicate.html 

[2] American Family Physician Article – www.aafp.org/afp/20020301/883.html